We are All Stars - Rabbi Benzion Klatzko

dauber be2 amat toy how great is it when things are in their correct time it is ello and an ello we think very hard and many of us here have passed by many ellos this is not our first rodeo as we say this could be el ol number 60 or 70 or 80 or even more so when I think about Darby toy I want to start off with this story that I always think of it's a story about hopping around I read this story in the newspaper it's not a Jewish person I read it when I was a young young man and this story affected me in a Yiddish away there was a a man whose wife said to him I'd like you to clean the garage and he said yeah I'll do it I'll do it I'll do it on Saturday now he's not Jewish it's not chiapas from Saturday he'll do it on Saturday and she said okay I really want it done but if I have your word you're gonna do it on Saturday comes Saturday and for the nod you what goes on Saturday the college football games and it goes on throughout the day so his wife says their husband okay you're gonna go to the garage like you said he would and he said please stop nagging me I'm watching the game and she says there's always gonna be a game on go do it you said you would I don't have time I can't I'm watching the game stop bothering me she says when you're gonna do it you said you're gonna do it he said I'll do it on Sunday leave me alone so finally she saw there's no point arguing with him he's not gonna listen anyways so she let it go and taki do not do it on his Saturday but on Sunday he also had a football game on but after the game he then goes to the garage and he begins to clean out the garage and he's cleaning in his and he sees on one of the shelves a jar and that jar had inside of it nails and screws and pennies and little little knickknacks and amongst amongst the items that were found in this glass jar was a lottery ticket a lottery think an old lottery ticket so he's just a little bit curious you know who knows the old lottery ticket in the jar so he opens up the jar takes out the lottery ticket and on the back of the lottery ticket is the phone number for the lottery to find out what the winning numbers were so on a whim he calls up the lottery and he says what were the winning numbers on such-and-such a date and the lady who answered the phone looks it up and she says ok on that date the winning numbers were 14 18 26 27 32 41 and as she reads each number he's getting more really really really really at any begins to holler and scream yes yes that's just what he says how much were the winnings they obtained what was the winning she said 20:27 million dollars I'm rich 27 million dollars that's a search sir sir come yeah it's 27 million dollars I won't have to exert sir please calm down so finally she said she he says the lady yes what is it she said I don't know how to tell you this I regret to tell you but the ticket expired yesterday if you had called me yesterday I would have had you run straight down to the lottery we got a casted and we could have given your 27 million after taxes but today it's nothing but a bookmark it's a piece of scrap paper the next day as is going to sit in his cubicle and there's nine-to-five job working now the rest of his life this was there's a true story that was in the newspaper the guy who missed the lottery by one day so all the women in the audience what are they going to learn out of this listen to your wife those in the eye she says do it on Saturday do it on Saturday but really there is a concept of darbian time on toys doing something in the right time is so much more golden than missing the boat when we are standing here in ello contemplating chuhwa thinking about Schafer thinking about what needs rectification we should understand that the ticket can still be cashed it is still early enough when we're standing in shul on the day of Rosh Hashanah and then the bow bow about the cat gets up farm throughout to do okay well what am I supposed to be thinking about what is it it's a little bit late it's a little bit hard to cash your ticket and digest the message of the chauffeur if you haven't thought about it in advance so I want to give one concept one idea and exit then I go back to Muncie and you go back we have some coffee and cake one idea and then we're good okay I don't overshoot I'm not so smart one ideas all we need here's the one idea you know I have a hobby it used to be a passion but gosh am i I think I outgrew it I'm not sure but I think I outgrew it but I still have an affinity towards this hobby and this hobby is Jewish art Jewish art I looked outside in the hallway over there there's Jewish art if you ever notice that Jewish aren't there so maybe the difference between you and I is you see a nice painting and I see boards to Grove because I not only know who the artist is I'm his friend who painted those paintings and I have the originals in my house I appreciate nice art you appreciate appreciate I have it on the wall by the way you know where it comes from it comes from because when I was a rabbi and UCLA and the campus I once had a student and he was sitting in my house on Shabbos and he says I have question for you he says why is it is there something against Judaism they have nice art and I said why would you say that because I've been to so many Orthodox houses and I don't see anything nice on the wall so what I wanted to tell the students because we have better things to spend our money on like tuition but I didn't say that I didn't say that I thought I thought about it a little bit and then the next time I saw a piece of art in a sale I bought it and from there I began to appreciate today you know I have I have art that's on the wall and when people come for Shabbos they appreciate it art that's what it is now I want to tell you a little secret about art some art is beautiful just just a vision of the picture no one has to be a kokum to tell you it's beautiful Jackie Mason used to say you know the comedian Jackie Mason he used to say no one has to teach you to like a potato chip you know I can listen the data chip in a Dave's good sir if they have to have to tell you why certain thing tastes good maybe it doesn't taste good I have to explain to you but I ever taste good it tastes good so certain art tastes good it looks beautiful then again there are certain art where someone's got to tell you oh by the way this is art really yes this is cost Shiva heart there's a very famous artist we'll see who knows their art in the room here because there was a Jackson Pollock Tedder whatever here's like Jewish name right not the first last name is Jewish a Jackson Pollock if you've ever seen Jackson Pollock everything is look for Schmidt and fresh dribbled you know it's like he took paint and he threw it against the canvas you ever see his art a little spritz a little spritz there and it's worth 20 million dollars Jackson Pollock Jack Jackson punk no one is someone has to tell me it's art because if I went and I didn't know then you know I may see it and I may think my kindergarten I made it in camp you know the proud the proxy spritz but this is Jackson Pollock that's why there have been cases where people have gone to garage sales and they pick up a painting for you know a dollar or two dollars and it turns out it's a Jackson Pollock and it's worth millions of dollars now why don't you ever find a Rembrandt in a garage sale because it looks like art no one's gonna put a Rembrandt in the garage but when you see how Jackson Pollock oh you can't tell what makes the Jackson Pollock crush of the name now I'm simplifying of course I understand art and what he was trying to do and buts there if the name wouldn't be there if the name would be yunkish Maribel wrote it whether it would be worth 20 million dollars maybe not twenty dollars the name makes it when you understand who the artist was you give it a Shiva it's important if it's an important artist it's worth millions here's the one idea I want to give you I want to convey to you today in v3 in the our hates and your sh and uber God knows half of our others that we confess half of our sins are our various been automata theory between us and our neighbor us and our friend why is it that we are so shocked that were so weak that we struggle so much in treating people with dignity I love and respect and the answer is we forget who the artist is there's an artist there's saya in cyclic a new so instead of looking at a person a person with a brain and with eyes and with blood cells and muscles and teeth and hearing and hokhmah and bina instead of treating them like the greatest work of art that exists in the entire universe which it is which we are there is no supernova out there no galaxy no nebula nothing as complicated and as deep and as mysterious as a human brain nothing nothing even close nothing as complex as the DNA that codes us that allows us to be individuals allows us to be us but what happens is we look at each other like Generic beings just one in seven billion and we forgot that Akash borrow who made parts oof am shy knows they are Sam Shaw knows our faces are different the way that we think is different our life experiences are different a photographer will tell you there's nothing as beautiful not a sunset not a Grand Canyon not a Niagara Falls nothing is as beautiful as a human face and the more lines the better because every line every wrinkle beef speaks tragedy and joy and victory and triumph and journey and experience and it's all right there and a person with a smart I can see there's something so beautiful about a human being but anxiety like a new there's nobody like this far but I don't forget that there is a tire the key to being great is recognizing the right mama Sodom recognizing that every single person is worth it for the entire universe you could look to your right now and you could look to your left and there's nothing out there and the universe is mighty big the universe is at least 93 billion light years across that's bigger than any of us can imagine and in all of those stars and all of those planets and all of those moons and the dark matter and the dark energy and and the gouge everything out there there's nothing as impressive as the person sitting next to you there's nothing nothing as impressive as you are when we forget romema Sodom when we forget how uplifted the human the human being is then unfortunately we just trip up and we speak wash Nara and we commit I know a stove arm and and we and we speak in a way that hurts people and we ignore people and people feel lonely and left alone simply because we don't value you know when I was young younger I lived in barb Park I had married been married a few few years and there was a young girl who was in camp and she got lost in the woods upstate I think when I was 30 Feldman sorry fella me remember a bar apart I was living on 14 between 45th and 40 miles living between 14th and 15th on 45th Street those any any old bar Parker's here yeah O'Brien's I bet you know my mother-in-law ready for this your one who is mother my mother was name was Tina Jura Val oh you know rabbi drew Bell hey Jacko that's my mother-in-law ah you see I'm speaking to the right crowd they older her for the men of the air Mike's mezrab daughter Joelle who makes the tapes and the books for the candle ah right ah you see this this is my uterus my mother looked over Tina Darrell rabbits enjoy Val rabbits injera Val and I was living right next order for many years I was actually a rather than a good that became governments can I don't know what it is today right over there on on 14th between 45th and 46 across the smartest show you know right right man crush him appelles right so Suri Feldman was lost and Claudius all came out by the hundreds and maybe even by the thousands people were dominating people were searching people were looking entirely as Shiva stopped what they were doing to Diamond and then nice say miss him she was found and collie show was exuberant we made songs about it right the Miami Boys Choir had a song as they ashamed keyline sound you never had that song as mayor I'm sorry Feldman we're so happy when we find one person so why aren't we happy with the person sitting next to us are they less than sory Feldman does it have to be a tragedy does it have to be front-page news for us to suddenly care everyone was domini and praying for Gilad Shalit he was a prisoner for years so what about the person who's not the prisoner what about the person who simply needs a good shabbos the problem is we take that for granted it's got to be dramatic or it doesn't count well guess what you are dramatic every person next to you is dramatic Pirkei avos says in the Mishnah have even other she never but Selim a human being is goddess because I shall created a human being but selam aleykum and more than that Hashem let us know that we were created in the image of God we are created in the image of God a cow isn't a cat isn't a goldfish isn't we are we're created butts Alamelu Kim and the first the first thing to think about if we want to have Roman will Sodom is to remember if we were never but selam aleykum then he is the artist and every single human being on earth is precious and I want to tell you something and I'll say it over here in Borough Park and it's important and I are the gathers kernel for my mother and here's the henna the clinic is that it's not just a kid as a matter of fact if we only look at hidden that the liver but solemn besides being against Pirkei avos we cannot appreciate a year if everyone else we look at as Ethel as nothing throughout leadership min hugging and throughout the tunnel there is a message that every single human being is created in the image of God and that's the first step to appreciating a yen you can't appreciate again unless you appreciate that everyone is liver but Salim and if you need proof to this let's throw some proof at you paisa what do we do when we're saying dumb smart Kingdom what do we do what's the minute dumb fridaya Kingdom why are we taking out wine when we say dumps are there Kingdom so we know the answer is because there is human suffering and if anyone suffers since we are near Robert Salim we have to feel pain everyone is creative but Salim the start of feeling royal mussalam is by understanding that everyone is never about Salim I'll bring you out I'll tell you another riot illness another proof whether my Walker wanted to say Shira where the jumpsuit split what did I correspond who say my senior died total by young that time I am sure these are my works these are my creations please don't sing Shira it's too important everyone is creative but Selim I'll give you another example by Jana when you I know saw that NIM they wanted to want to do chuva he had had my selfish and I shall have to teach him a lesson how did I shall teach him a lesson by creating a key column then destroying it and what did you wanna say you hadn't said right it's mommy mothers and I sham said why is it so bitter to you when I destroy a key kyon that you didn't even plant but human beings that I made that were made but Selim they should all be destroyed and I know she loved the Toth and their animals we see that a college bar who says everyone is created but Salim Ellen Kim everyone is created in the image of the divine my mother joke assumes I'm stuck taught me this at the youngest of ages you want to appreciate a Yid you have to appreciate humanity you want to raise children and grandchildren to be upstanding people you have to teach them to appreciate humanity if you look at the rest of the world like they're nothing and only a youth counts then even kidding you're not gonna treat right and I'll explain to why if the only ones that we treat right are you so what about a year that you don't agree with what about a you know you considered to be a little bit crumb or it doesn't have your schita so then we'll put them in the other category of the nanyan or those who don't and those that category doesn't have Salim Elohim anymore so I can throw away people people are disposable that's the danger so number one you want to raise beautiful Kindle I teach them remember Sodom that every single person is gorgeous and then the Mishna says let's take it up one level have even Israel Shaniqua bonham la Markham his royal are called the children of a sham now here's a little secret for you everyone is really children of our Shannon even even non-jews are children of our Shannon but we are different we are called beneath a hurry Israel we are the firstborn and what is the job of the firstborn why does the firstborn get piece nine it does because we are the example to the world we are the teachers to the world but we can't teach the world if we look at the world like zepho you can't teach the world how does this come into play we all know people who need physic and we decide who gets our time who gets our energy who gets our love and if we we're able to look at even a stranger who walks into shoe as worthy of our love because they're made that Salim ellic in their bun in my welcome then I wouldn't be so quick to judge them to put them down to marginalize them no I wouldn't because their bottom line welcomed their children of a sham very cute story I'm a 13 year old son named Azaria and last week Azaria was in the airport and he was taking a flight from Eretz Israel they had a stop in Germany and then they were going to the United States and my son is standing there with his brother and he he turns to the lady of the counter who's issuing his ticket and he says to the lady excuse me are you Jewish now why does he do that because he's my son that's my pickup line I go out ask people are you Jewish I try to connect with them so you know my 13 year old he learns for me he says yeah are you Jewish so the man that the lady says back lady says I am Jewish but it doesn't really matter I thought it shouldn't make any difference at all because we're all just humanity we're all just humanity these are all labels Jewish not Jewish all just humanity okay about 13 year old she put my 13 year old in his place we're all just humanity then as she's issuing the ticket it's time to issue my other son a ticket so he so she turns to my 13 year old and says is that your brother and my son says I don't like labels we're not brought were just humans that's all humanity it's just humanity so the lady was a little bit taken aback by the sharp light of a Yiddish a Kent so she right away snow that's different because I asked you that because I wanted to know if your family so my son says there and I asked you if you're Jewish because I wanted to know if your family also so you kiddin she kept my son Toby had this conversation I was so struck we're family with Miss Parker I was in France and I had a stopover and I'm on this walkway this moving sidewalk and there's a French Jewish family that's going the opposite way and you know the sidewalk they passed each other so I'm going this way they're going that way and as we passed past each other we turn or we say somewhere later some awaken Missy octavo have a good have a good trip I have a good trip I smiled because we're never gonna see each other again we live in opposite sides of the world but you see you'd salamullah came I just saw a masterpiece do you know who the artist was who made this year Jews passing by it's none other than kuch Abreu Raja my legs are my Marvel and how beautiful you are the only way to put down another year is to forget that their neighborhood selam aleykum that's the only way the moment you remember that there are prints there are queens their king they are brother Malcolm there couldn't be more beautiful but we forget so we treat everyone like Hulan this half dead at this yarmulke no yarmulke this then I want to tell you the power of the orchid in case you're looking to your right and to your left and you just see a person let me tell you what it says in the end of the first pair of the de marrón condition it says that a person should look at the entire world the entire world like it is such as a chi the Hep C is the entire world isn't bounce the entire world is half guilty enough innocent and you with the very next deed that you do will decide the fate of the universe now the Gemara clearly is not trying to be dramatic if you look at the Gemara think Amara he is not speaking in hyperbole I think your mother is saying that there are times that the world literally is in balance if you Almighty looks down and says I see good but I see evil and I are which way we're gonna turn this and I'm gonna wait to see what you Yahoo what you Sarah what you riska what you hang do and I'm gonna decide weird the direction of this world is heading based on your action for a breath ax very big vamoose er I once heard him speak he said a beautiful thing he said that he said without bricio monville island hookah shah my heart for something without breezy without warning for a day and i without every moment of time having at least somebody out there learning torah if there would be a second or a minute in my breezy arm of allah then hookah sure my part for something i would end this universe what holds the world up is torah learning sir brother said something fascinating he said you know there could have been a time in history that for one second everyone was distracted maybe it was the end of world war two when everyone stopped what they did and they went out celebrating and then at that same time there was some thunder outside so people by smell stopped and there's such a conference a and then someone else just got engaged and who knows that one second in history that one second and there was only one yet Allah one person somewhere in some basement warming Turner during that second and I Shem and the time of my chef is gonna take this person out of obscurity and put them at the very front and safety you know Evra to you know world that this one person we owe it to this person because if that person hadn't been learning in that one second tour the world would have turned that to tell you of a volume the power of one individual and that one individual could be sitting here in this room it could be a mitzvah it could be as I said every single person sitting here is an entire world and when we forget this we begin to look at people as disposable you know when somebody passes away there is a minute to say Kaddish why do we say Kaddish he's Gaddafi's Kadosh shamira but I'll tell you why we say Kaddish because the message is that when somebody passes away a certain amount of kedusha leaves the world and when kedusha leaves the world we have to fill in that gap what that means is that every single person sitting here has added caduceus to the world there's nobody here that doesn't matter Ducie that we wouldn't have to say college for after a hundred and twenty years there's ocean everyone has that kedusha now sometimes we look at people unfortunately as never holes so person there are never here's a person that comes from brokenness a person who comes from a dysfunctional home they grew up they have issues they have problems they're in therapy maybe they're not the kind of person that I'm going to rest the Jewish people on maybe that's not the kind of person who are very proud to see that it's signed by God Almighty maybe the artist is not that proud who knows but of course that's utter nonsense as a matter of fact the opposite is true do you know that typically speaking you cannot be a leader unless you come from dysfunction think about it let's take a Brahma veenu from a brand the father of many nations either Mongolian who was he well first only had a father who who loved him a lot who basically had him thrown into a Kip Charlie so thanks dad thank you for agreeing damn be thrown into a fiery furnace right Danny had a brother who was thrown in and died then he was forced to leave his home and wander pretty much all of his life Danny couldn't have children for many many many many years and finally has to take an extra wife and that wife gives him a child who's that child well the forefather of Isis his smile so I run a drama leaders first progeny was the smile somebody was a para Adam a difficult and wicked person dan is the the wife hugger who by all accounts was a very special lady she was thrown out so he's gotta throw one of his wives out then another one of his wives doesn't have children until she's 90 years old and then that child what does he have to do him he has to take him and shocked him last minute he gets a reprieve only to come home to find his wife dead because of sudden shock turn to death then he has to pay 400 key card cacif to buy a little cave and then in his lifetime he sees this cute little grandson named Asaph I mean I've ROM lived a lifetime of saris enough for ten people you know from hidden have an easy life well if I gets cut ah don't even start with you Scott well firstly it's who was blind he had a brother named Ishmael forefather of Isis and jihad he had a kid named a South who is as wicked as can be he didn't find the for many many years and the rest of his wife he didn't he had a hard time discerning who was in which she got the Behar that's not nice house good sir didn't have knockers Yaakov well let's see Yaakov gray uncle's was he smile his uncle was love on whose nickname was to trickster his brother was a sir who just wanted to kill him and then he goes from there and he works for his trickster uncle and gets tricked again and again and again finally after a run away from his uncle's also his father-in-law only all the dads are white daddy loves not be able to have children then he's got his daughter Tina we know what happened to her and then his beloved son Yosef gets kidnapped for 20 years I mean Jakob Jakob said it clearly you made sure nice I'm on for I'm so Yahoo lived a horrible life I've robbed in it's got videography you know he's safe Wow I don't even have to go there from when he was a kid he was kidnapped by his brothers and discarded very very difficult life my son my shot Dana is a little tot right he gets brought up in a non-jewish home then Polly wants him dead he runs away I wanted to kill him according to the meds as well a snake almost ate him up he had no appreciation my son gives him a nice stunner cuz he ate the coal instead even though he was gonna choose the coal I think I'd known Oscars from the year from the end I got it again and again my show they don't have they're very tough life and then my favorite of all my favorite one I feel close to da da da la da da da Mela our dear dear da da da Mouse we saved of it on those words every day until don't we loved all that I'm out Akasha healthy we say it's every single day twice a day govern I must live the horrible life first of all Shem well what didn't even choose him his own father didn't think he was right to be the king she wore girls to try to find the king it's out of love it's not have you died inside him inside him finally she wants us do you have any other kids got a little red head out there and in the field I'm sure you don't mean the red head yeah I do so da da Mao has a little kid he's they're forced to to to fend off the the flock from bears and lions he kills coleus and instead of getting all sorts of praise for it show the king who else wants him dead throws his spear at him he's forced to run away again and again shawl tries to kill him no naka stare finally he becomes the king and after it becomes the king his kids want to kill him stop it I'm not look love they're very difficult life and yet every one of these people who today a therapist would recommend heavy therapy for every one of them became the leaders it is Hashem teaching us a lesson that sometimes when you look at the broken person from that brokenness comes the greatest leadership from that brokenness will emerge a diamond in the same way that diamonds are formed through intense heat so hot so much pressure almost too much pressure to bear and then afterwards diamonds are cut again and again come on cut scraped polished but what emerges is so beautiful so when you look at the person to your right and left and you see how difficult at it you should notice she'll probably believes in them and makes them watch that they have some leadership or wants them to be much spear we say in domine the following it's a beautiful concept we all want your life to be rebuilt we wanted we want us to be in eurasia line and we say gosh um you boy ne'er shall I am but ne'er shall I Michelle you're the one who builds your shall I'm you know how we're gonna do that - cute we please sell your hammocks we're gonna gather in those who are far-flung we're gonna bring them in but you know how we're gonna do that how are we gonna do Kirov I'm gonna slap Phil and on people as that called Kirov what is Q what is Q you got to go to the next posset you know it says in the next passing her race daily spray lathe or my cabbage laughs buy something those who heal the brokenhearted and gather in their sorrow you know what Kirov is it's by discovering the other person's beauty through their pain looking at the other person and I'd say he's fat she's thin he's tall she's joined he's got this county Jamica they got that kind of hollering they use this kind of no sir I have that kind of manag let's not just only stick within our own know there are people are broken hearted and if we could be people who are rightfully sporulate who heal the brokenhearted or my snobbish labs find someone gather in their sorrow we're gonna we're gonna build yerushalayim but how do we do that so you can again for the next person a very odd plus ik because it seems like it's not connected and the pus it goes very next person Moines and miss poor like I love him Unum shame our secret you can't you put a count you put a number to the stars and you give each one of them a name about a week and a half ago I was in your I was in Israel I was in the Eretz Israel and I was in the desert lying down looking up at the heavens with my students and it's so dramatic there are so many stars in the heavens they're uncountable actually according to science there's 23 I'm sorry 10 to the 23rd it's an incredible amount of stars so many stars that way more stars than there are grains of sand in this world way more way more not even close and I should we could say a Shem you need so many stars by shams yeah I counted every star every one of those stars are important I value them so much that little um Shamus you CRO every one of those stars have a name what is that pasta have to do with healing the brokenhearted and gathering their sorrow the answer is the reason that we have a difficult time gathering in people sorrow is we forget they have a name every single person has a name my name is spar like I love them Claudia saws diamond to their cousin who a my secret every single person every single star has a name when you're supposed to accomplish who you are your lives journey every person here is a star and every person if you go to an RC phone you'll find a hundred thousand didn't not a single one is expendable not one youth is expendable there's not one year that we wouldn't cry and darlin and stop the learning in yeshiva four and give it's Tucker for I mentioned our Mischa barracks every single year there's no such thing as Jewish collateral damage no one yet is too many you know there's a there's a missionary masochist Hamid that speaks about the fact that they used to decide who gets to clean them his bath by having a race running up the ramp and the mission says once somebody was knocked off of the ramp and they broke their leg and since then they don't do it like that they use a copy they use they use a lottery system why one person got hurt and you end the entire customer yes because one person is too many Coulomb shaima's shaker every single person is awesomely precious that's what the park is saying I'm gonna finish with this idea sometimes the people who are around you need to hear that you understand how precious they are we all on some level struggle with self-esteem we do it's the reason why we davon we benchmark Irish we ask for console voice you've covered why do we need cover it I want to ask this to my reputation Wiseman you know what he answered he says because we need it we need we need it even if it's a shoe initially miss we need to feel desired we need to feel wanted we need to feel like we belong were important and sometimes we need somebody to tell it to us almost every kid that comes to my desk that is having issues in life can be traced back to the parents not giving them enough recognition and enough respect and enough self-esteem almost every kid because when you give a child self-esteem the child feels good about themselves you know the most beautiful thing you could tell a child is it's magic but I'm gonna tell you is magic if you have children or grandchildren or works the same if you have children and they're sitting on the floor playing with Lego or coloring in a coloring book stand over them and say I love to watch you color I love to watch you play like a watch how well they play that Lego watch how beautifully they color that carnival mommy likes to watch me color ZB likes to watch me play I love to hear you play piano my kids play instruments I know there's nothing that makes them feel better than for me to sit myself down and just I love to watch you play I think play better and they play with more love and more a musicality and the whole thing is beautiful because we need to know that somebody loves to watch us we need to know it well we don't know they were special so then we begin to feel maybe I don't have a name Lulu I'm shameless secret but maybe not me maybe I'm the exception when I was in yeshiva and receptor my first year I was not a very studious student I was not a very good barter wasn't bad I just was drifting you know I adrift you know you can't you Slough you play with your little toys do you desk you wait till recess you guy.you play really honored then he come and you drift a little while longer and what's interesting was in the Ashima that I went to I went to tells you she was growing up and Intel's they don't give olives and basses and Gimbels like they do in a regular yeshiva in impels they give titles so at the end of each saman at the end of each semester you get a title based on how well you did so the top title is called hits dinars it's time to switch yah excellent so if you're ready stylus butter you're awesome you're amazing and the next semester the whole semester oh here comes its finest partner oh I want to learn with the it's time to spot it stylus is a big deal and that's what we get from a 96 200 if you get a 95 then your title changes a little bit it's called Tove mo I'm sorry it's called it's called suffocates Thainess something it's fine you're not inside a job awesome you're so fake it you may be awesome your questionably awesome something it's dieters 95 if he can under a 95 let's say 94 then your title changes you're called nylon mode you're going up nicely if you get him 90 you're Suffolk my limo so something quickly gone up nicely I think keeps going down from there and a really low grade Intel's is something called 12 mode third mode sounds great 12-month but actually in the Shiva winter that's like a very very low grade you're like below because after madam own cousins Milan and then after Nile it you got all the way down to talk mode and then to get Toph you're about failing so my first zoom on India Shiva I got 12 mode and I was a little bit clueless I came back to my parents I said I got 12 now you should be proud of Ito's mode my parents were clueless they did I know toes mode is not so good yeah toe mode the next mom my second mom there it was in the middle of mom and I had like two good days of like really good learning and there was a young man I'm gonna remember I'm gonna mention his name right now so that he should be remembered for a bra huh he's a live professional but I wanted to have a bracha this Rosh Hashanah his name was Lee Goldman from Baltimore and it was one of the top pogrom in my shear and he saw me learning my two good strong days two out of the whole semester two good days and he turns to some of the people in the shear and he said you know I think classical's gonna get each diners this is mom he's gonna get hits times he's a stylist Parker and I'm like me Skyler's nagas over the smart guys me I'm told Martha that time I already understood it but the world wasn't that great Mary's gonna be in sinus and I began to think why not why not me why not maybe I can be hit stylist and the switch flipped in my brain and I began to work hard and I worked very hard and I ended up not with it Steiners sorry he doesn't have that happy ending I ended up with the nylon mode 93 but I was still far above what I was doing the next mile I worked even harder I got Suffolk hits diners so I thought eventually I got it stylist I don't till today I am grateful to this Barker that doesn't even know I'm mentioning him here in Borough Park 30 years later he doesn't know but he's gay benched because he said words that showed that he believed in me and all I needed was one guy to say I believe in you you could be special well the person next you needs all your children need all your grandchildren need is for you to say I know that you're special I love to watch your color I love to watch you learn I love how much custody you're involved with I love how beautiful you sing and they'll begin to feel like a star with the name and once they feel like that star with the name they talk of will shine because the one who created them is the greatest artist of all and he doesn't make rejects he doesn't make products that are recalled nobody's recalled everyone is gorgeous and if even a non-jew is called selam aleykum then we are bundle are mahkum even more so and how much as I shall love his children and how much should we value each and every person here so that's my few words of physic for this L just remember romema Sodom and the next time you pick up the phone compliment just a little bit more let the person know how special you think they are and you know what's gonna happen they're gonna live up to your compliment and maybe one day that person is gonna stand in front of an audience and say because of the telephone call I once had with you I began to feel the courage and the ability to reach my potential thank you very much [Music]