When your lust is out of control... What do you do? - Parashat Vayeshev - Rabbi Alon Anava

[Music] yesterday I heard a story I'll share some of the details that has but a very yeah intense story that will present and lay out the foundation of this class so a certain individual a lady that I know found out that her husband who's supposedly a God-fearing individual while she is not found out that her husband cheated on her with another woman happens every day every city every town every country dozens of times so what's so different in this story than all the rest that she asked me how can it be that my husband is an observant so to say individual and can come to such a sin that he cheats on his wife So my answer was when they yet sell when the desire the urge the inclination is burning the logic goes out of the window right in Hebrew it sounds much more profound when the inclination is on turbos when there's a strong desire for something suddenly your common sense your logic your faith your belief leaves the room there's always a little point in your brain that tells you don't do it don't do it don't do no no no no don't go there but it's such a small point in your brain that the rest is like uh you know the professional name of the yetzer of the inclination of the desire you know how it's called the same is the acronym it's not even an acronym it's two letters of the full name of the Satan of the devil the one who pushes the urge right his name is we don't pronounce the name is like two letters pulled out but in Hebrew is read some means drunk and why is it called that because in Hebrew to drug some bodies to drug somebody so the yetza kind of drugs you another explanation that Samir is also two letters out of the word Summa a person who's blind then the samach man blinds you drugs you blinds you you forget who you are you forget where you're from you forget your values you forget everything because he's a pointing somewhere so if this is the case and we all can be easily victims now this is a example that I'm giving you with a man going with a woman it can be to each and every one of us with stealing embezzling cheating slandering oh I can give you now 125 examples how it can relate with each and every one of us that something is burning somebody said something to you and you are about to explode and you burst out with something you shouldn't say or anything in that respect I mean you can take it to any direction you want now of course comes the situation so what's the advice for something like that how do you hold yourself in the moment where you are like a loaded gun and you stop yourself from falling into the pit that you might not be able to come out from so in order for us to apply uh good practice to such a serious question let's go to the role model in the Torah is talking about the story of Joseph and really Joseph is the model is the role model of the one who fights the ultimate challenge and wins if you're looking in the entire Tanakh of a certain individual that was faced into the biggest challenge of his life and was able to win so let's analyze the character for one second we're talking here about a 17 year old male who faces a challenge with a beautiful gorgeous unbelievable attractive woman who seduces him to be with her is nothing to lose everything to gain and yet he says no I can't so let me give you a little bit of background on what's going on there first of all when you're looking at the story of Joseph is Supernatural not normal doesn't even make sense Joseph didn't live in Nebraska okay or Boro Park or monsie or um he lived in with time there's not even a city in our generation that can be compared to mitraim not Vegas not Dubai not kosamoy there's nothing like this in our generation go to the worst place in the world this is nothing compared to with time in regards to its promiscuity for its one for the level of Filth it says about the time that it was the most low loneliest place that you can find and why is hidden places private parts of our body but really Irma means something that is low loneliness so he lived in the most disgusting place where there's no rules everybody does whatever they want I'm telling you Vegas any City you can think of is nothing compared to how it was there in regards to how the women more modest men and women women men and men anything anything goes there there was nothing dignity nothing honorable and yet he lives there for 22 years okay but the story happens when he first when he gets there now there's not one individual in the entire Torah that is described as a handsome man okay on yourself it says that his face was gorgeous that his body was talking here like a Calvin Klein model nothing like that to even compare something that women will see fall to his legs just for his Beauty and there's nobody in the tanach that is described as handsome as he was so you're talking here about a 17 year old male gorgeous that not only that his face is gorgeous his physique something completely out of this world and you know the whole story his brother's uh kidnap him sell him to a convoy of Ishmael they sell him they come to the meat market he's in Chains and potiphar comes there and you can't miss yourself I mean what was in the meat market in the slave markets slaves and disgusting people and there you have this gorgeous young man the text says potiphau had Tendencies to like men that's why he bought him by the way he didn't buy him because he wanted some hot guy around his house liked men he wanted to be with Joseph so he bought him the the minister of the minister of the cooking it was the however you I don't even know how you can even translate it he was in charge the the top chef of vitrim okay had a chain of restaurants and so forth and not only that he brings him to his house and he tells him okay you run the show here and very quickly yourself sharp guy takes control over everything and in a few months he takes over the entire estate and he runs the show but if you run the show I see you're smart you're sharp you're taking care of business you take care of my entire estate foreign has a beautiful attractive wife that falls in love with Joseph and in any indiv any opportunity she has she's trying to seduce him to be with her first she's trying in a nice way changing her clothes lipstick high heels cleavage trying to get his attention right then she sees that doesn't work so what does she do she Corners him if you're not going to be with me I'm gonna make sure you're going to be jailed if you're not going to be with me I'm going to rad on you that you did this and that if you're not going to be with me she starts cornering him at some point he almost fails the text says that there was some type of a holiday nobody was home and he knew that nobody's home and he came to the estate to do his work some of the commentary says that you know in his favor by saying no he knew that nobody's home including the wife so he came to work some of the commentary says it's completely different says no he knew that nobody's home but the wife so he ran to the home maybe something will happen nobody's there he can be finally be with this woman but nevertheless you know the whole story she tries to be with him and full the last moment before he fails he sees a portrait of his father and he grabs you know he pushes away her hand and runs away and you know the story then later on she tells potiphar and then they arrest him and he goes to jail and so forth now this is basically the story that you understand a little bit of the background so we're talking here about a young man very attractive and is seduced by a very attractive in the woman and really when are you thinking about it what's he gonna lose nobody knows him he doesn't know anybody he's Stranger in a Strange town in the town he's not even considered a sin what's the big deal just be with her needless to say that probably because maybe he wanted to be with her but on the other hand he has everything to lose and nothing to gain but really when you're thinking about he has everything to gain but nothing to lose because she's cornering to such a point she's already blackmailing him your entire future is dependent on me so what's going on there that's suddenly out of nowhere he decides to not pursue so if you're looking specifically in the text where the whole story is found chapter 39 in our parashah chapter 39 in the book of Bill sheet verse 8 and it's using a word that that's the word that changed everything and the word is the English translation and he refused now in the Torah there's the all the little symbols that is called te amim right the te Amaya Torah the English translation for that is the the the the traps right that's how it's called the traps or the no the what I found the translation is the cantilation notes okay it's all the little signs how you read the the Torah I'm talking about when you read the Torah in the synagogue not how you read it from the actual book because it all symbolizes you know different Tunes when you're raising your voice reducing your voice the Trap the time above the word is a town that is called it and if you're looking at the at the book you know each one has a different one is a circle with a little line one is like a kind of a arrow to the side there's different signs look in the kumashi you'll see what I'm talking about the is a very rare and uncommon drop very few words in the Torah has that and the sound of it is a repeating and accelerating sound [Music] and repeating a lot and you don't hear it in many it's very rare maybe a few times in the entire Torah and the shall shell it the translation of sociality is a chain but above the word where it says that he refused is that specific drop now nothing is by chance nothing is a mistake everything has a meaning to it so before we explain that a question could be presented Shalom you are in the in the place that you're about to commit a very bad Sin and it doesn't matter right now what it is if each person their sin is different what would probably be the most powerful thing that will stop you from doing the sin and I'm not saying that because that's my opinion that's what most of the commentary will say what's the most powerful thing to prevent the sin it's called honor you're afraid of your honor you're afraid to be embarrassed a person can be in a very high position politically he's about to sin in a very horrible sin what will stop him the shame that everybody will find out what he did okay so honor your respect a shame that's the most strongest thing that will stop you from doing a sin when everybody will find out it was you ah and one of the many commentaries that says that is maimonities is rambam rambam says you have the biggest desire the biggest lust what will stop you come on respect that you'll know that you either gain a lot of respect alone you lose all your status if somebody will find out what you just said you're saying okay I'm willing to not do this sin right now laughs with that said if you're looking at the situation of yourself of yourself not yourself yourself he didn't have any honor who knows him he's a nobody right now normally not only that in the time he's a nobody he's completely under the radar because in regards to his father he died the brothers made a pact we don't talk about him so really he's an orphan his mother's died he's he's not a register anywhere he's not in misada blim he's a ghost he doesn't exist technically in the world so he doesn't have a past he's in a Strange Land he's no social security he is nobody he somehow entered the land of mitraim no immigration no Visa no passport he's an open all his past is erased and all his Futures in the hand of this woman in one word she says that he tried to write her he goes to jail and she also told him you'll be with me I'll raise you up I'll make you the the boss here so he has nothing to lose and he has no honor or respect to to put in the equation I'm gonna lose my honor your nothing someone saves him if it's not the pursuit of honor and respect or the fear to be shamed like I told you that's what the commentary says that as he was about to do the scene doesn't matter right now willingly accepting he wanted he didn't want he sees a portrait of his father he's get scared and he runs off and there's a lot of questions on the commentary because it doesn't say in the Torah it says in the commentary where did you come up with the dafka that he saw his father and there's a lot of arguments we're not going to get into that but I'm already telling you there is arguments on the commentary who says that he saw his father but nevertheless let's jump to another question of the commentaries so he saw his father so what so what I was once a pretty uh well said in a nice way mischievous kid didn't stop me from doing any sins even if I saw that my father in front of me he didn't stop me from sinning cheating lying stealing so what so the commentary says so what so I saw his face of his father big deal what is up to stop him from sinning well you think my kids see me they stop from sitting I hope they're not but but they think they see me that makes much of a difference maybe yes maybe you know I don't know but the commentary says okay so you said he saw a partridge of his father so what I told you that the Trump above the word is called it means a chain the commentary answer is what he saw is the chain of the generations not only saw the image of his father he saw the chain of the generations wait a minute I'm the son of Jaco the son of it's the son of avalanche I'm not some I don't know how you can Define it I'm I'm the son of Kings I'm not a simple individual now all this is very Noble very nice very pleasant but this might work for yourself doesn't mean that it works for me didn't stop me from sinning oh my father is that again it's very nice in the commentary that works for Yosef he's the son of yaakov I'm not the son of Jacob well maybe 50 Generations above I'm the son of Jaco but does that work for me or you to come and say well I'm the son I'm the Prince so what okay it's all nice but that doesn't teach me how I'm supposed to deal with situations like that and the Torah comes and tells me stories only to teach me how to how to to to relate with the world and how to behave in the world that's the Torah the torah's not a history book the Torah comes to teach me how to deal with situations so the Torah is not presenting to me the ultimate test now it has to teach me how to deal with the test so up until now nothing works for me too I'm not afraid of seeing a picture of my father neither than you and also someone of my father that doesn't work for me so before we answer in this question there's a very important comment that has to be explained before we continue because I told you that when you're safe was about to sin it says in the Torah that on that day which the commentary says there was some type of holiday that they all went to their place of worship so the house was empty some commentary says oh he knew the house is empty including the wife so he ran to do his job so let's explain come presenting yourself in a positive light but many of the commentaries says no no no no he knew that everybody's out of the house but the wife she's all by herself he can do whatever he wants No cameras no surveillance nobody will see nobody will hear so he ran so the commentary says most of the commentaries you're putting yourself in a very negative right why why you say something like that that's not nice so to explain that concept that it will be more clear there's only two individuals in the entire calls them at Sadiq right can you think real quick who they are well one of them is Joseph of course who's the second one no right two individuals names them Sadiq nobody Joseph Enoch comes a big question why would the commentary put Joseph in a bad light but also the other individual that the Torah names that Sadiq if you look in the commentary about noch the commentary doesn't put him in a good light it says he was righteous person in his generation big deal put him in the generation of Abraham he would be a nothing the commentary doesn't put knock in a good light he says wow yeah you're inside in such dumb very easy to be at Sadiq so we have two individuals the entire Tanakh names and the commentary goes and attacks these two people and puts them in a negative light saying ah what's the big deal what is the Torah and the commentary you're trying to tell us that the two individuals that are they Torah call them at sadik it's at Sadiq that has the ability and the desire to sin Moshe was a real tadiq Tony to he doesn't have the desire Abraham can you bribe him in any type of way when the Torah calls Joseph means they reached to a level of asadic with the yetzera with the desire to sin they earned the title they weren't born at Sadiq they worked hard for that saying in other words that really they're more righteous than everybody because they weren't born righteous they were this close to sin and they were able to overpower their sin therefore that we can relate with them can you relate with a real Sadiq well how can you can relate with a real Sadiq has Sadiq a righteous individual no desire to say loves God with all their heart we're not even in that platform we're not even in that level that I can relate in any type of way with the Sadiq but with an individual that is human as me that struggles and overpowered the struggle and gain the level of a righteous individual that I can relate with so really the commentary is not putting them in a negative light rather saying that is the real Sadiq the real righteous individual that it wasn't born with that ability worked and thought for the title the greatness of this individual like Noah or Joseph to that respect that he did Sin but he also worked on himself and reached the level of at Sadiq therefore the Torah titles these two individuals as a Civic much greater than when you're born with that so really this is not a shame or notoriety rather it's a praise so we're turning now the way how you're looking at the commentary that the the the first glance you're saying the commentary is putting them to shame no no it's not putting them to shame rather it's praising them that is the real Sadiq yes you want to follow the great leaders but you'll never be at siddique you weren't born at Sadiq you can hang pictures pictures of all these to the game but you'll never be one because you weren't born one if we would be able to we would put a picture of Joseph a person that was in the struggle first of all saying in other words yes I wanted to be with her who are you kidding 17 year old man of course you wanted to be with her what kind of a question is that first of all the message just to take from that is that each and every one of us can become a taxi Yosef almost sinned he didn't sin he almost sinned saying in other words and we can conclude the class here that each and every one of us can reach to that level has the ability has the power but we're going to continue the class that's not the message okay but take that as a message for the middle of the class now let's go back to the fact that the commentary says that would stop Joseph was the fact that he saw a portrait of the face of his father that doesn't help me when I'm questioning or looking for some type of guidance how do I deal with the challenge right I'm looking for practical advice that doesn't give me advice it doesn't give you any advice because so let's say I'm going to be now in front of a severe sin I'll picture my father I don't think it's going to help me it might help you but it's not going to help me in another 5 billion people in hospital I'm not trying to offend any individual I'm just saying it's not good advice okay and we can analyze that after but I want to be practical and give me Darkness what do I do listen I sin every day along with everybody else I tried putting the face of my father didn't work it didn't it might work when it's a very small thing when it's real challenged and I don't don't forget go back to the example I told you in the beginning when your desire is burning come on I'm not talking here that somebody's now telling you hey let's do something minor your senses are blind your your you are completely out of your element you don't even know how to start relating with the challenge you think a picture of your father is going to make a difference right now ah let's let's be more practical so first of all the advice of our holy and smart sages is that why put yourself in the place of an essay on of a challenge don't put yourself in a place of a challenge but you're trying to find a solution after you're already in the challenge don't put yourself in the challenge you know that you're weak there if you're an alcoholic don't go to the bar if you love women don't go to a club very simple if your weakness is gambling stay away from the casino you know think before you act you know what's going to be the result the more you put yourself in such a situation so for that there's a story in the download I'm sure you heard the story I shared that story many many times the story says that there were bandages that came into a Jewish town and they kidnapped a bunch of girls somehow they paid the ransom and they released the girls and they were backing down they didn't know what to do young girls so they said where are we going to put the girls till we find their homes Etc so they said let's put them in the house was the name like the father of means the khasid okay so now they come to rabi Abram and they bring him to his house a bunch of young gorgeous women and what do you think that this great talmouth this great hasid didn't look around and I have like gorgeous young girls in my house the story says that they put them like in an attic or something but the story says that he you know is looking and snooping around so one time he couldn't stand the Temptation oh I'm sorry I forgot to tell you an important uh part of the story that they put them in like a attic like a second floor and they moved the ladder that nobody can go up the story says that he was so tempted that he moved the ladder what would take normally four men to move it when you're when your desire is burning you'll move very heavy equipment okay so he moves the ladder and starts climbing up the ladder oh my gosh suddenly he came to some sense what he's about to do so what did he do he started screaming fire fire fire everybody ran out and they see their Rabbi standing on the ladder Two Steps From The Attic what are you doing there so his students told him you shamed us master so he said I rather shame you in this world than shame you in the world to come ah saying in other words don't bring the yetzilla the inclination end you bring him in that's it you're done there's no way out you open the little door to the yetzer to your desire you can't get him out don't don't even think you can try it's like a salesperson you just open a little bit the door he's in that's it don't let him in no because I'm an adult you once the the yetzer the desire is in whether it's your thoughts doesn't matter where that's it you can't get him out he's gonna make you fail and really what's this little opening is your thought I know many people think it's the eyes what I'm looking at the thought if you're just catering the thought that's it you you dug yourself a bit don't let don't let even the thought come in so that's the first advice which I'm not saying it's so so simple but I'm sure you know and I I taught that many times and I'm sure you learned it in many other classes that it says in in in in the commentary of many places why would a person sin so it says a person will sin only if a spirit of folly enters him right so if a spirit of folly entered me in one type of a way so how am I liable to be punished later on right I didn't do anything the spirit of folly entered so the answer is if you're asking why would I be liable to punishment the answer is because the punishment is on the beginning not on the end the punishment is that you let him in not that you cater later on the thoughts or whatever it was the punishment is goes only on the beginning saying in other words don't let him in close your eyes to see something that you shouldn't close your ears that you shouldn't hear any gossip and lashonara close your thoughts I don't want to think of even something don't let him in listen you know in Hebrew it's a take the medicine before the the the illness right what's interesting is you know we just celebrated the 19th day of kisslev which is the day that is attributed to the release of the balotania from jail so it says in the book of Tanya that you cannot stop the first thought but you can stop the second one I'll repeat and I'm quoting the balatanya you cannot stop the first thought but you can stop the second one you didn't stop the second one then that's it you let him in and in that respect I will tell you the same story that I mentioned many times many many years ago I was in a lecture and the whole lecture was for men about guarding the eyes and at the end many questions were presented to the rabbi I was in the speaker there and I was a student and somebody questioned and asked the rabbi if I walk in the street and right in front of me stands a woman that she's not half naked she's naked with a few pieces of cloth on her completely not modest gorgeous the woman with the red dress in the Matrix right she's standing in front of me I mean I she's there am I going to be liable she's I just lift up my head she's there so the rabbi said a very smart answer he says the Sin starts you know when when you go like this you cannot stop the first thoughts or the first sight you can stop the second so how do you stop the thoughts closing your eyes that you have to be very quick closing your ears not so simple when somebody's about to tell you don't don't you don't believe what you just heard and I'll see you close your ear especially when what I just heard about so and so who said this and this about you what but how do you stop your thoughts by thinking of another thought ful says you can't think two things at the same time a thought comes into your mind cheating lying slandering whatever it is then right away think of a different thoughts don't let it in because once it in he nailed you so prevent it prevention right now okay that is all very good one word of advice hopefully you can apply it but what's the answer once you're ready the thought is already in the site is right it's you're already in you're already in the test already that's it you you're already your leg is in the Trap I couldn't control the thought couldn't control my ears couldn't control my eyes that's it I'm already facing the challenge what do I do now so it says I'll tell you a quick story from the talmud about a certain individual that his name was rabi Bana and his job was to go to Graves and mark the graves why because at the time of the Holy Temple people were afraid of too much met of the impurity of dead if not they have to go to the Holy Temple Run get sprinkled with the holy water so he would Mark the graves a for the priests for the quanim not to go near a grave or on a grave and also for people who are afraid of tomat okay that was the job in our generation you work you're an engineer 2 500 years ago you would Mark Graves okay the story says that he went all around Israel marking the graves eventually came to crevon he comes to khabon comes to kirat arba and starts marking the grave so he goes to the first one sees the grave of RAM and Sarah and marks them goes through and then he's about to go to the grave of Adam richon an angel stops him and tells him it's enough that you saw the face of Adam you can you don't need to see them that's what the story says in the talmud must speak she is it's enough that you saw the face why the talmud answers and saying you already saw yaakov yaakov is identical to Adam origin yaakov looked exactly like Adam so it's enough that you saw the face of a damagation you don't need to see him himself so who does Joseph really see it doesn't say in the commentary that he saw his father it says an image of his father yaakov looked like a damarition Adam that changes everything he didn't see his father that's why he told you it's not the father that changes everything Joseph understands in that moment that he's on a mission he understands that his soul was selected to correct the sin of Adam origin shh that is a whole different ballgame how does Joseph change or correct or fix the sin of a damarisan or for the ones who don't understand the term Adam what did Adam fail in he listened to the snake the image of a demolition came to Joseph and says don't believe her don't fall for the threats don't fall for The Temptations then you'll have the best time of your life but don't fall for the threats I'm going to ruin you don't believe her and if you don't believe her you'll correct the sin of a diamond sure he understands wait a minute it's not that I'm the son of yaakov the grandson of Israel I am here on a mission a mission that will change the face of humanity he understands the severity and the opportunity you know there's a book called The megalia mukots if you remember two years ago when we had the tuba boot camp I gave you a whole story just about the megalia the whole story with the two orphan brothers that they sold the ankosha meat it's a whole lecture I'm not going to repeat it right now but nevertheless is a book it says there that Adam when he sinned in the tree of knowledge really he did three major sins I explained that in many of my classes what are the three sins that Adam did idol worship forbidden relations and bloodshed right I said that many many times where does he come up with all these three sins idol worship that he listened to the snake and not to the master of the universe forbidden relations that she he end up sinning in that department and the rest now needs to be explained much and Idol and and a bloodshed because of his sin he brought death to the world before that he was supposed to be immortal the megalia mukot explains that each one of our forefathers came to fix one of these sins was designated to to fix idolatry by going and advertising the name of God all around the world Isaac was designated to fix the Bloodshed by being a sacrificed and putting his life on the line yaakov was designated to fix forbidden relations and the entire sin of lust the commentary says by the fact that he had 12 perfect kids that's how he fixed it explains no Yosef if you remember in parashattle dots and the rest of the PowerShot it says that that Jacob and Yosef were a they looked similar to each other it's talking about that the the continuation of yaakov came through Joseph really not not in the age Joseph was number 11 but the continuation that's why it says that yaakov loved Joseph the most it's not that he loved him over the kids he had a special spiritual connection to him so if Yosef really was the one to fix forbidden relations can you imagine the responsibility that Joseph figured out what he said what what he's supposed to do the greatness of him or the opportunity that he had that's what gave him the power that's what gave him the power to stop himself from sinning by understanding how great he is saying in other words yes Joseph but I'm adding to that yes you each and every one of you are the son or daughter of Adam that's already changes the entire way of looking at things when you do something you you have to understand it's you not yourself right now you are fixing something in the universe that nobody else can fix do you understand now your responsibility when you understand how great you are you're not a Moshe or a Rachel or or whoever you are you are a unique individual that can fix and correct something in the universe that only you can do now when you understand a the responsibility and simultaneously your greatness now you're looking at the opportunity as a completely different way when I became observants no I know my mom always listens to the classes so either she'll cry now I don't know what she's going to do so I apologize already to my mom but when I became observant I needed to find all sorts of ways how to not sin okay let it on later on it moved to my kids but it started with my mom because I said who's dear to me in my world my mom no offense nobody I didn't care about anybody else I was in a place that I will stop myself from doing anything if I would know that it would hurt my mom okay so I brought myself to a place that is Shalom I'm facing a challenge that I'm about to sin I would think of my mom and I would think that maybe with my sin it would hurt her in any indirect or direct way and I said don't touch my mom and like I told you later on it moved to my kids if I would come to sin a little ping will go up in my brain if you will sin right now maybe it will hurt in a director indirect way under your kids I would be like okay that's where I'm backing up when you really care about the consequences you think a lot before the sin even if your desire is burning out of control so now we're taking it to the next level and Joseph is coming to teach us that you were selected you you everybody was selected and why is it saying Adam that nobody will come and say Jew namjoo we're all the kids of a demolition that's the first man come and say I'm not Jewish I'm exempt or why only the only this has nothing to do with Jews it has to do with a human being in this world you have to understand a your greatness don't belong Yourself by saying I'm I'm only Moshe I'm only yaakov I'm only Leia I'm only I don't know what Stephanie or Jennifer no you are the child of Adam and khaba do you have to understand your greatness more than that you have to understand that maybe you're not some celebrity or big shot but you are the only one that can do a certain correction in the world that nobody else can do nobody else can replace your task in the world now when you're facing the challenge you say wait a minute if I mess up the whole ship sinks if I make it I change Humanity the face of the world changes because of me I can't take this responsibility the lives of billions is dependent on me so really what we can take from that that is the person just needs to be reminded how great they are because if we will go but what people tell us if I would go by all the comments that I ever got growing up till now I don't think I'm great because my first great teacher told me I'm a loser and my second grade though A teacher told me I'm going to end up cleaning garbage in the street and my third grade teacher told me we'll come and visit you in jail and my fourth grade teacher told me so if I would listen to all my Educators I'm not going to get far not to say that parents call their children losers Liars you're a nobody you're a bum Society names you like that why would a person think they're great when Society calls them a misfit uh uh reject whatever it is how many people really get drilled into the brain that they're great so really what one needs to understand is that every individual needs to be reminded how great they are and how important are their actions and that there's consequences to their actions and when you drill that into the person's brain eventually they'll understand wait a minute my actions are detrimental or be the complete opposite my actions are are can change the face of the world I will just conclude by telling you something profound Hashem next week is Hanukkah right best holiday ever don't have to fast don't have to do too much not just ride the minority Donuts right best holiday in the Jewish calendar don't have to work too hard it's only a few minutes beautiful eight days of light etc so next Sunday this year will be next Sunday is not going to come then this video somebody will watch it next year isn't going to be next Sunday but this coming Sunday on Hanukkah for eight days we read every day abortion from the Torah what do we read we read the portion in the Torah it's called the inauguration of the temple every day one of the presidents of each tribe came with an offering on the seventh day they didn't know who to give the offering to because the offering is a sacrifice it's a qurban you're allowed to sacrifice on Shabbat but only if the offering is What's called the korban Cebu Corban Cebu is the sacrifice for the public not for yourself because at the time of the Tabernacle in the Holy Temple if you sinned you come with a goat right I'll go to the Sheep a lamb you come to the priests you tell them my sins like listen like that they sacrifice it eat it whatever it is and the sin is Forgiven you're not allowed to do that on Shabbat Shabbat you're allowed to have sacrifices on altar only if it's a public sacrifice kobansibo so they don't know who to tell now who's going to be on the seventh day bringing the sacrifice because Shabbat is a problem who did they appoint to give the sacrifice on the seventh day Frank the representative of the tribe of Ephraim is not one of the kids but nevertheless the flame in Menasha are part of the tribes don't forget we take out levia and Joseph right we think of Levy I mean we leave Levy but we take it from that economy but you take out Joseph the Torah decided that the Sea of Chevette will do the sacrifice Shabbat why fine it says briefly I'll explain Ephraim is the child of Joseph Yosef it says Joseph Shamar Shabbat that's who the Torah says Joseph observed Shabbat where do we learn that Joseph observed Shabbat is when the we'll read it in the next parashah when the brothers come and he makes a feast he tells his servants prepare the meal today so we can eat tomorrow and he prepared everything prior to shabbat says Joseph observe Shabbat since Joseph observed Shabbat Joseph is considered a Cebu a public not a single individual therefore a fine who is his child he can offer the sacrifice on Shabbat because he's considered a public and not an individual saying in other words what do you take from that that each and every one of us we're not an individual if you're looking at yourself as an individual then you only contribute to yourself but if you look into yourself as a part as a part of a whole then good or bad you affect the whole the clan everybody that Cebu the public if you're only thinking of yourself as mind your own business then okay so you don't contribute much and you damage you have to understand that you're part of the whole when you sin you affect everybody when you do something good you do the same thing you're affecting everybody in a positive way rambam says maimonidi says if you did a Mitzvah you tilt the entire world in favor not yourself your entire world so what you need to take from that when you are challenged with a test that you think that you cannot even start fighting you have to put yourself in your mind not the picture of an Amazon because you don't know how you see how he looks and not Joseph but you have to understand your greatness you have to understand your importance and your responsibility you have to understand that you're part of a whole you're part of a group of an entire human race your negative actions will affect the entire world but your positive actions will affect the entire world in a positive way that should help you start fighting your challenges