Who Are You Really? - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (11)

[Music] good to be back here in aventur Florida uh we uh just came back from New York this afternoon anyone that missed out uh watching uh the lectures online if you weren't if you were able to come out live and you missed it I think you're crazy but uh live we had uh I think just um the last count was uh somewhere a few hours after over 20,000 views of uh just a lecture last night so uh the uh the event in New York was M unbelievable we had a uh lecture on uh Sunday night uh with uh myself and rabbi zitron for uh almost a little over four hours a little over four hours talking about pit the the issue ofit the issues of uh modesty or better yet immodesty uh and uh both of us spoke for a little while maybe about 40 minutes or so each and then we went into questions and answers with the crowd and uh for anyone who hasn't watched the sh this is one of those most uh really exciting sh because at some point after about 2 and 1 half 3 hours starts a uh spiritual fist fight uh where one guy that's a renowned atheist and major Cel major heretic just a uh the beliefs themselves are uh problematic but uh the the actions are worse and this guy likes to mess with rabbis so uh he thought that he's gonna have a good time with us he actually had a debate with Rabbi zitron about a year ago where Rabbi zitron uh pretty much abused him and proved all of his false theories uh for what they are false and uh that's why the guy even though he recorded the lecture he didn't put it online cuz it's pretty much just uh showing the world your embarrassment but anyway apparently you know as soon as he came I uh you know I saw this guy looks a little Sim familiar then I was told this is the guy's in the crowd so for the whole time for the first 2 and 1/2 hours 3 hours I'm waiting for him to say something uh and uh but it was very interesting because the guy was writing notes as if it was Mas like he was writing an essay but that also shows you the Way of the Wicked You Know the Way of the Wicked when somebody wants to manipulate the Torah when somebody wants to you know go against they're going to look to you as if they are uh doing something good they look to you as if they're studious they look to you as if they're uh you know doing something uh you know with a pure heart until the Venom leaves their mouth's that every Jew is obligated to fulfill it's called to destroy now is not just the person like we know from the tanak that had fight at the time of M yeshu and this is the arch nemesis of is and uh this is where uh all of the major enemies that has had throughout history come from Amal specifically uh the nation of amalik or Haman you know the story of pulim uh the Nazi Germany but that's just the person today we don't know who Amal is as a person so uh because if we did and we had a s we would be obligated to actually kill them uh but since we don't know we can we're not allowed to kill anybody but there is a much more dangerous amalik there's a much more dangerous amalik in the world and that's an amalik that uh causes saf causes a doubt there are different types of people in the world many of them are Jewish unfortunately as the uh Navi says your conquerors your destroyers will come will come from within you meaning you are Your Own Worst Enemy so there are certain people that their primary uh function in the world is to create doubt in the minds of Jewish people young old male female irrelevant their job is to give you a doubt about doing T and MIT and get you to a point where you abandon the tor you abandon and you become an atheist you become a missionary Christian you become some anything but a kosher Jew and the way that they do it is by using clever tongue and clever speech uh and uh try to create doubts by giving you big questions that you perhaps don't know the answer to but uh put you in a position where wait a minute if you don't know the answer to this how could you really justify keeping Shabbat if you don't know this how could you really justify keeping kosher if you don't know this how could you really justify such and such and a person already has a uh yet inside him anyway so when the yet comes from the outside as well that person's goes on turbo and if the person does not have the the fear of a that's necessary at that point it's very very easy to see a person fail so the two things is one this uh a person that has come to a point where let's say they started doing CH they started doing they keep Shabbat they keep they keep other like sh you're preserving yourself until you're married whether you're male or female you have to preserve yourself you're not allowed to touch the opposite sex uh until you're married uh for many reasons that we've talked about in the past and you start doing it but you're starting to see that you know your life is a little more difficult you know you really have the urge and someone calls you and they want to hang out with you you really have the urge to eat uh bacon egg and cheese or something and it's right in front of you and somebody offered you a free sandwich and you really have the urge and uh there's a TV show that has a bunch of znot on it and you really want to watch it and so on and so forth if you have the you're going to Simply run away if you don't have the you may fall now his job is to make sure you fall how by putting that doubt in your mind so when you're already weak and the yet shows up with a TV show with a movie with a girl with a guy with a casino with something that doubt now gives birth to an action and then and what ends up happening is the person says you know what ever since I've become religious my life really became much more difficult you know ever since I started keeping Shabbat I'm making less money instead of more money like uh I'm supposed to like I think I I'm supposed to ever since I became religious I've been sick ever since I become religious such and such has been happening meaning that there is a remorse is there remorse in your mitv that you fulfilled the mitv but you you're not really sure maybe I shouldn't have done it so now if you fall off I don't have to tell you what happens but what happens if you just simply say it you simply say you know what ever since I become religious my life sucks is that a big de is that a sin how many of you think it's a sin one two how big of a sin from 1 to 10 like one one 10 10 why 10 there's a big big between you guys a no actually is on the head no 10 you basically regret all your why is it 10 though why is it like or eating pig or having a moral crime killing somebody that's a 10 that's a 10 you rate you rate regretting the mitah the same way as murder yes why because you lose everything you you ever did the r chapter 3 number three says the following anyone who changes his mind about the mitv that he has performed and regrets the merits that he has earned saying in his heart not even saying out loud in his heart he says what value was it in doing this what value do I get out of keeping Shabbat what value do I get of keeping my breit what do I get out of this B no come on my life is not really that great anyway I wish I hadn't performed them why because I'd still be with Christine I'd still be with Jose I'd still be I go to the movies every weekend with my friends I still be playing poker Texas holdom with uh Daniel Nano and the rest of the degenerates I really i' still be doing all this fun stuff so the rambam says if he says these things in his heart he loses all of his mitv and no merit is preserved for him at all meaning not only as he now made his sin that he said something that as if the MIT are not worth very much but all the work that he's done already for the last year two years three years 5 years 50 60 years he's 70 years old he's been religious for 50 years imagine how many mitv a person has in 50 years all of it gone all of the Merit gone everything goes to the Bas he wants to go to Gan he has to start all over again meaning he goes if dies the next day he goes up to Sham and say well sorry sir uh you have nothing your uh spiritual bank account is in bankruptcy what what do you mean I I I put fine I did this you did yeah but you said uh it's not worth anything so he said it's not worth anything it's not worth anything where does the rambam writes to get this from the prophet says in chapter 33:12 the righteous n of the upright will not save him on the day of his transgression so this is specifically applies to somebody who regrets the previous dids meaning not just what he's doing now but what he did in the past not like you know it's really hard to keep Shabbat I don't feel like doing it anymore that's one thing you don't lose the past for that only if you say you know what I wish I didn't I wish I didn't keep Shabbat I wish I didn't go into a kosher business I wish I was still in the uh cash advance uh murdering people's bank accounts business I wish I was still uh going out with Christine and Jose I wish I wish I was still there rambam says okay that person wishes he gets his wish he loses everything and just as a person's merits and sins are weighed at the time of his death so too the sins of every inhabitant in the world together with his merits are weighed on the Festival of R if one is found righteous his verdict is sealed for life but if F if one is found Wicked his verdict is sealed for death so here we see is a very very big deal but if he repents if he does chuv he can get life again if not he get death the point is is that a Jew is supposed to train himself before the yet arrives before the yet arrives to not allow any of this nonsense into his mind or her mind because if you do you could literally lose all the work that you've done now even if somebody has made this mistake and has said it that doesn't mean that you should continue making sins start all over you'll be you'll you'll do CH and if your chuv is really really serious you could even turn all of your all of your sins into but the point being is that we learned from the we learned from the law the laws of that a Jew is supposed to not only be careful with his actions but even with his thoughts even with his thoughts now this is Al this is not an opinion this is simply what the law is now the problem is that sometimes we have different friends or family members that simply work for Amal they're full-time employees of Amal their job is to constantly weaken us calling us all types of names making fun of us making us feel bad about missing out all types of sins ah you missed out last night had the best party yeah he danced with her and he went out with her and he had this one and he starts making you feel bad about missing out on sins oh come on you should be in this business this guy just started 6 months ago he already made a million dollars yeah but your business is stealing money from people No Stealing stealing the guy made a million dollars he could give a lot of takaka now and they start making you feel bad about doing M that's Aid what's another example of mid say that if you want to open the hearts of some people you know you teach Torah and you have the ability to do it sometimes it's good good to start off a shi with a joke I'm not very good at this not very good at jokes even when I tell jokes nobody's laughs so I quit but that's what they say they say you want to start off a sh to open up their heart start off with a joke start off with a joke not middle of The Shield is a joke sometimes I have jokesters that come to my sh I used to have this guy come to my sh when I was in Bon every five minutes a joke every five minutes I'd say something something something something something he's like oh this and he make a joke and everybody and every five minutes later ha and five minutes later haa after he did it a few times I said okay the door's over there and haha over there why because that's actually the says a person that makes jokes during a for the sake of lightening the topic you know it's too tense the rabbi is talking about stuff that's scary the rabbi is talking about stuff that's a little bit stressful all right it's too much so somebody decides to volunteer their humor the most recent joke they invented you know to make light of the issue says the beginning of his punishment is suffering in this world that's just the beginning why because we learned from seph that this is the attitude of Amal of how they tried to cool off the nation from learning real Torah what's one of the examples any of you heard of the story of Sodom and Gomorrah you heard right Sodom and Gomorrah there was the nephew of Abraham ainu left Abraham went to Sodom became over there the judge now Sodom and gomorah was full of immodesty full of homosexuality full of all types of things that a hates and a decided to destroy s now because lot was the nephew of abrah ainu he had some merits so hasem sent lot angels to go save him so when the Angels came and told lot listen you got to get out of here and take whoever you want with you but whoever doesn't come is going to die after you get out of the city after you to get over the mountain we're destroying everything here so lot took it seriously he understood what he's dealing with so he came to his son-in-laws you know I figured you come to your uh come to your your own Sons sometimes your sons don't want to listen to you but your son-in-law your son-in-law usually wants to marry your daughter he wants to be with your daughter so usually he's going to listen to you so it says that lot came to his son-in-laws in seph 19: vers 14 it says that lot seemed like a joke in the eyes of his son-in-laws meaning lot came to them he said come on God's going to destroy Sodom we got to get out of here lot look you old man you going to tell us what to do no no come on come on old man go you and your angels and your God and whoever you want you go go go we're good over here get out of here and they started making fun of him killed them obviously all those people but the point is is what were they trying to do they made fun they made fun of lot trying to do something good and say this is a this is a character trait of Amal making fun of serious things especially when it comes to so when a person comes and tries to make fun of Torah you have a Mitzvah and what's that Mitzvah the Mitzvah is that you have to rebuke them as strong as possible without being vulgar without violence but you have to rebuke them insult them and completely completely put them in a situation where they're discredited in public generally speaking if you embarrass your fellow Jew in public you losea you have a fellow Jew kosher Jew and you decide to make fun of him in public you decide to embarrass him in public unless you do chva you've lost Allah even if you keep Shabbat keep bre keep everything you lost all you have to do serious serious cha to undo the damage of embarrassing another Jew in public but when someone is a rash that tries to weaken the public then your Mitzvah is the exact opposite you have to embarrass them in public why because if you don't they look credible in front of people they're saying something and you start debating them as if it's an intellectual conversation so some people going to say okay I agree with the rabbi but there's going to be always going to be at least one victim that's going to say maybe this Amal is right maybe I shouldn't keep the so you are obligated to rebuke them in full force all the weapons have to come out why because you have to discredit them in every way shape or form so there's nothing left in the minds of the rest of the people that are watching that thinks that maybe there's even a 1% chance that this guy's correct so this rash that came to our lecture on Sunday he's already done it to a few rabbis where he comes to the lecture pretends like he's listening just like you sikim and he writes notes and it looks like he's paying attention and right at the end of the lecture whenever the lecture is about to end he throws a bomb at the rabbi like one of these tough questions that unless you learn the the topic you don't know what you're talking about unless you learn science or you learn medicine or you learn this you learn different things that not every Rabbi is is an expert in the rabbi may not know how to answer it so all of a sudden he makes a big deal out of it so now that whole hour two hours three hours you you gave everybody goes right into the garbage and now they look at this am as the wow yeah he beat the rabbi he proved the rabbi wrong Rabbi didn't know what to answer he asked the rabbi how old is the world and the rabbi said 5779 go yeah but there's dinosaurs that the SST say it's millions of years and the rabbi didn't know what to say oh so now all of a sudden in the minds of the rest of the people with their yet already working all of a sudden like oh so if if the rabbi is wrong about the age of the world then maybe he's wrong about Shabbat maybe he's wrong about Kash maybe he's wrong about maybe he's wrong about everything maybe there's no God maybe there's this maybe this guy this Amal is God who knows what who that's what happens so now most rabbis in America are relatively quieter than I am they don't like the fight they don't like M they don't like to raise their voice generally speaking they they definitely don't like debate I on the other hand love debate why because this is what I did for a living for almost 20 years this is what I went to train for for 20 years and the key is so when somebody comes with information if their information is correct I'll lower my head you're right I'm wrong no problem but if you're going to come here and throw a bunch of Venom and pretend as if it's a cure then my my obligation is to do the opposite so this guy thought that just like he ruined three or four other rabbis lectures in the last year or so he's going to come there so I highly recommend you watch that video and you see that if one day am comes to you this is how you're supposed to be why it's the only way to defend it the only other way outside from that is run away literally physically run away like somebody starts saying stuff you just say okay one second you start running just start running where you going I don't know go go go go keep running running running run as far as you can run as far as you can if you have his phone number put it on block that's how you have to behave with people like that so it's not a problem to have doubt it's not a problem to be ignorant it's not a problem even to have false beliefs it's not a problem it's wrong but it's not a problem why if you have a wrong belief let's say you think that the clock behind you is God now it's stupid but your belief I can't fault you that uh I don't know maybe maybe you're maybe you came from a monkey after all I don't know you thought the clock is God who knows the problem is only if you start preaching it to other people and it's even more of a problem if you preach it to them against their will when they're in a place where they're trying to learn Torah they're trying to learn about the real God if they came to your lecture about atheism and you want to tell them the clock is God then they came for they asked for it they're clients they customers but if they came to learn about a and you are pushing your disgusting Venom into your heads to ruin every belief that they have now you're a dangerous person now it's not just your beliefs now it's your actions and that's what the Tor says this person is not only a mean but he's also somebody that's a that causes other people to sin and this the rambam said is one of the categories of the 24 different types of people that does not allow them to do CH meaning he does not help them do chuva they can do chuva but hem does not help them and even if they come to you asking you for help to do chuva you're not allowed to help them it's to that extent because you can never trust such a person so why do we get to such a level usually it's because we don't have enough understanding of who is and that's what the ran is trying to teach us with this letter that he wrote almost 900 years ago to his son up to now the ramban has actually scared us quite a bit and we're going to see how he continues to do it today so he says the discipline of your father and do not forsake the guidance of your mother then he continues and he tells you make sure to accustom yourself to speak gently to all people at all times meaning speak to people at their level not necessarily speak gently like people think gently like you have a monotone voice and you're speaking like you're uh speaking to kindergarten kids some people if you speak to them that way they're just going to Simply think that there's something wrong with you mentally why do you speak to me like I'm I'm not 5 years old you could speak to me like a human being you don't need to speak to me like Hi how are you God is real you know that's not going to help me if you talk to me like that talk to me like a regular person but talk to me like a regular person though so you have to accustom yourself to speak to people gently at all times meaning gently to their gentle to their n meaning take their see where they are at least how they portray themselves and accustom yourselves to them if they are people if they're angry then you have to obviously know that you can't light them up even more if they're calm then you could do something else if they're young you talk to them a certain way if they're older you talk to them a certain way if they're Holocaust Survivor you talk to them a certain way if their parents are Holocaust Survivors which means they're extremely emotional then you talk to them a different way point is that accustom yourselves to their gentle towards their gentle speech will protect you from anger meaning that if you're constantly taking the other person and where they are into account you're never going to get angry when they reject what you're saying why because all you care about is them so if they're rejecting what you're saying simply you understand okay so I have to do a better job and help them understand me different by the way I'm the one Speaking not them so you can turn around look at me me me K it's not a coffee shop anger is the most serious character flaw which causes me one to sin if a person does not control themselves only takes their own opinion to account you just want to tell people what you think and you care less about what they think that's going to lead you to sin it's a flawed character and a person that has such a flawed character eventually people are going to disagree with him and since he doesn't really care about anything but himself it's going to lead him to anger and this anger flaring up is going to cause the person to to go to Gom which we talked about already Gom is not a fun place once you've distanced yourself from this anger the quality of humility will enter your heart humility is the Sterling quality it's the finest of all admirable traits the goal of every Jew is to Humble themselves as much as possible and we'll talk a little bit about that today as well and one of the reasons is because this humility on the heels of humility comes the fear of God if you're working on humbling yourself understanding who a is understanding that your job is to not only help yourselves but help your brothers and sisters understanding that you're here to serve Hashem and not just please yourself and fulfill your own desires that's going to lead you to fear God which is one of the MIT of the Tor and through humility the fear of God will intensify in your heart and the fear of God will in ifying your heart for where and to an extent where you will always be aware from where you've come and where you're destined to go you'll realize that in life meaning while you're alive you're as fra as the maggot or the worm all the more so in death meaning that you've come from nothing you come from a putrid seed that everyone that sees it is disgusted and eventually your body just becomes a uh you know a nice dinner for a bunch of maggots and worms for for about a year depending on how fat you are that's why the M says someone that eats a lot of meat eventually will have a lot of uh maggots why somebody has to eat it somebody has to eat it why somebody dies what you think they just preserve there if they're a sadik yes but if they're not they no so now we arrive at where we uh where we are the ramban which is the next line he says in this sense of humility it'll remind you of the one before whom you will be called for judgment the king of glory the fact that you have now worked on yourself you're trying to humble yourself you're trying to fear Hashem ultimately how what's the what's the main goal is to have a relatively simple basic understanding of who a is why do you need to know whoh is it's not about who's going to perform the next miracle for you it's not about who's going to give you so you can buy the next house it's not about who's going to be the one that's going to find you your Z one day it's not just about who's the who's the one that created the world it's not just about about that it's about who you will one day have to meet face to face and pay judgment for every single action you've ever done if you've done good according to his Tora you'll get paid for it if you've done bad you'll get paid for it but different payment now most people don't take this into consideration to such an extent that most people live their life without even taking judgment into consideration until it's too late sometimes a person is going to speed on the highway on a regular basis and cut people off and only start realizing that he should be more careful driver after he gets into an accident but sometimes it's too late when I was a kid I had a couple of friends that uh used to uh they like to uh r cars they had fancy schmancy cars and they worked on their cars and they put all types of rims on their cars and all types of radio all you know put a lot of money into their cars and all day all they did is stay in you know sit in front of one of the guys houses and just like look at their cars wash their cars 500 times a day then race them and then go back and then race them again and then fix apart and then race them again all day all day every day all day was a the same thing and every time you knew if you wanted to find these two guys or three guys you need you need to go far or you know just walk by the house they're always they're either there if they're not there they'll be there in a few minutes after they finish one of the races one day somebody did something to one of their sisters yelled at her insulted her did something that they didn't really like so the three of them went into their cars and wanted to go beat this guy up so the guy saw there three guys in there and uh he got into his car and he started driving away now this is the this is like Fast and Furious sounds like fun right so they started chasing him down the high highway vom Voom like the movies it's three cars after one he feels like he's James Bond he goes here he goes there he goes here he goes there he goes here he goes there goes there then he goes into a truck and he dies it's not funny he died yeah he died he died and the guy that was ahead he went to jail for a bunch of years for driving a car fast really cool car why he murdered somebody I know it's funny but it's not funny never mind the Fast and Furious part we have to make it entertaining before we shock you it was fun to drive fast until it wasn't fun anymore it was fun to drive fast until it wasn't fun anymore why cuz somebody died if he would have thought about it 1 minute before he decided to go into a car and chase this guy down it wouldn't have happened they would have never got into the car okay they would have been a little bit upset somebody insulted their sister and but that would have gone away like anything else and this guy would have been alive maybe got married had a couple of kids maybe one of them would have been a big Rabbi maybe one of them would have been some that built yes maybe this guy would have been productive I don't know uh curing cancer who knows what he would have done but no he died another time one of these guys name was rean rean big kid tall played basketball was a good athlete and once in a while he had a mood so nobody really liked to mess with him one day he had a mood in front of the wrong guy and the wrong guy was also from around the block and he wasn't scared like everybody else why he had a bat in his car so he took the bat and he hit Regan in the head and Regan became for the rest of his life I have a lot of these stories I live to them you get old you get to see a lot of these horrible stories now let me ask you a question when the guy put the bat in his car was he planning on hitting rean in his head no he was planning on playing baseball that's what he was planning to do but when rean acted this way and that guy acted that way push came to sh they didn't prepare themselves mood went out of control anger went out of control and one guy is defective for the rest of his life and the other guy's in jail still to this day why it was attempted murderer the point is most people do not think about the consequence until it's too late needless to say when they're young like you because you're just trying to have some fun the point of what I'm trying to tell you is that you are allowed to have fun but don't be stupid think you have a brain your brain even if your IQ is slightly above a monkey is still more sophisticated than all of the technology in the world combined there's more wiring in your brain than all of the wiring from Verizon AT&T Qualcomm Google Apple and everybody else combined in the world in every single one of your brains use it before you lose it use it simply before you take an action that's going to be too late a few people that I know didn't some people died some people stol in the hospital to this day some people go in jail that's what happens when you get old you get to see all types of stuff like this it doesn't matter where you live doesn't matter what religion you grow up in doesn't matter what your beliefs in just a few days ago somebody went to sh praying in uh what is it North Hollywood North Miami Young Israel North Miami and you just want he's sitting outside sitting outside some crazy guy decides to pull over and shoot him five six times he's still alive but the point is is that whatever that crazy guy was thinking obviously was no good but theau Shalom almost hundred years ago every bullet has a name on it the bullet is never going to hit anyone who doesn't deserve it anyone that hasem does not want it to happen that does not mean that that person that got shot we want him to get shot Shalom but never ever think that it's an accident everything is directed by K it's not accidental that some crazy guy decided to go shoot him AEM directed it to happen that way apparently for whatever reason he wanted him to get shot that guy wanted to shoot somebody so he used him to shoot somebody but he didn't want him to die so he shot him but he heard him but he didn't kill him why that's I have no idea I'm not a prophet or a son of a prophet all I know is that nothing in the world happens for a happen stance the only thing that we have control over is whether we are going to be the vessel that a who is going to use to deliver his message the good one or the bad one that's the only decision we have in this world if you think clearly about what Hashem wants from you what Hashem expects from you guess what you'll be a messenger of good things if you don't think not if you think bad things if you simply don't think you just leave your house with whatever you have on even if it's nothing walk around half naked you don't think much you just go whatever what let's get out of the shower I feel comfortable with this it's hot outside you ask come on clothes it's going to take me at least another five minutes to put clothes on why do I need this let me just go free like Adam was naked in the beginning why no if hasem created the body why can't I just walk around naked people walk around like this all the time well they call it clo but in reality it's not Clos why you see 90% of the body you don't even need an imagination for some people you don't even need an imagination to you can't look why practically the same thing they could take a shower just like that nothing would change why they didn't think they didn't think wait a a minute I'm going to go outside showing my body to a bunch of strangers for what why would I show my precious body that deserves respect that deserves honor that was created by the king of kings that was supposed to represent the King of Kings I'm going to show it to a bunch of people I don't even know why why offer the multi-million dollar diamond for free for what perp what do you get out of it what so he whistled at you are you a dog you want people to whistle at you go to the go to the to the zoo over there they'll put you behind a cage everybody's going to whistle out you maybe I'll throw some bananas too every day they'll feed you you don't have to worry about food you just sit in your little cage and that's say what's the problem how come how come no everybody looks at the cow and cow's naked if anybody nobody notice cow even though it's black and white it's naked but nobody says we don't cow is naked Rabbi what should we do about this nobody says that why because it's a cow it's a cow nobody thinks the cow should wear clothes these crazy people that put clothes on their dogs they're crazy everybody knows they're crazy when somebody goes shopping for clothes of their dog they're crazy there's something wrong with them regular people look at an animal say animals not supposed to have clothes on humans are supposed to have clothes on so when you see a human being with no clothes on it you're supposed to think there's something wrong if that human is you or your daughter or your sister or your mom you're supposed to ask yourself uh how come you're trying to do the same like the cow why are you following the cow's wardrobe the cow's a cow why are you dressing like her if you respect yourself you're not going to show yourself to the whole world you're going to preserve yourself and only show your beauty to eyes that deserve it not and Carlos from the supermarket now any woman that instead of being offended by what I say actually listens to what I say and thinks about it for a good five minutes we'll agree every woman that's going to take 5 minutes and think about wait a minute I'm not married to Jose I'm not married to Carlos over there I'm not married to that construction guy I'm not married to that guy that looks like he's homeless murderer something I'm not married to him either why am i showing my body to him I'm not married to these people why am i showing my body to them what am I getting out of it anyone that thinks about it for a second says no Shalom I'm going to cover myself one day I'm going to be my husband he can see whatever he wants he's my my husband everybody else nothing why I'm a queen my father is a I'm a respectable woman all you need to do is think the same thing with you guys sometimes guys like to dress like girls they like to wear clothes that are so tight you don't know if it's skin or it's clothes or they spend time at the manicure in the pedicure or they do their eyebrows the guys of this generation have become so feminine you have no idea who's who he looks like a girl but he's like hey what's up man wait who I thought sorry sorry was ma'am I thought it was ma'am ma' that say please move over oh no I'm not ma'am oh okay sorry buddy I had the long hair in the eyebrows I thought uh I was sure you a man okay man it's confusing why he looks like a girl got two earrings four earrings why do guys wear earrings girls wear earrings why do guys wear earrings why do girls wear girls wear earrings because it's it's a sign of it's a thing of beauty it's jewelry for a woman men not supposed to wear jewelry it's a feminine thing earrings show me one time in history that males wore earrings Jewish males not green only in recent Generations there says don't do the things of women don't wear the clothes of women don't act like women why because you're supposed to distinguish yourself you have a role as a male she has a role as a female you're supposed to be easily distinguishable if both of you have four earrings and maybe a little belly button ring and both of you wearing tight jeans and a t-shirt and you like long hair do and she likes long hair do can't tell the difference both of you went to the same manicure pedicure and did your eyebrows you can't tell the difference the point is is that if you simply think instead of being offended about the things that I'm saying you'll agree you'll agree 100% why you're normal human beings you just never thought about some of this stuff most people don't think about this stuff they just do why it's a style because Kanye West started it or uh or or Little John or Little Wayne or little some some little guy started it and decided to uh to wear a girl pants some little guy started to wear girl pants that are tight and are his ankles so a bunch of Jewish kids are wearing pants at their ankles but they walk like this like they have a diaper why why why do you want to walk around look look like you have a diaper on B ask yourself this question why is your pants down why why do you want to show everybody your underwear what's wrong with you if you thought about what I'm saying you know I'm right and it's not me you're right because you have the same opinion you never thought about it if you actually walk around in the street and you see some nasty fat gross person but he shows his underwear he has his pants down he shows underwear and one of the underwears has like a hole in it and all types of branches come out of that hole you say wow he's stylish like little Wayne he's like 50 this guy's going to be the next rap star no what are you going to say he's like hey buddy pick your pants up you plumber pick your pants up you're gross why I'm stylish I'm 50 I'm I'm I'm I'm 25 I'm 7 I'm something right no why it's disgusting how come disgusting on him and not on you cuz you never thought about it never thought about it the Torah makes all the sense in the world all we simply need to do is think that's it just think about the results of our actions it's funny but it's not funny it's funny because we're doing a bunch of stupid things but it's not funny because because we're still doing them so the point of all of these shim is just to make us think a little bit make us think a little bit about some of the silly things that we do without thinking that's what causes most of the problems the reason why is because the's number one job is to convince you that there's not going to be any judgment you're not going to have to pay the bill there's never going to be a car accident there's never going to be a sickness there never going to be any problem but that's what I'm telling you as a result of getting old you get to see a bunch of stuff and you realize everyone has problems everyone has problems life is full of problems which means you're going to have problems at some point you're going to need to know how to deal with them the idea is to know how to deal with them before they happen number one tool start thinking before you do stuff why as soon as the problem comes you're going to already be trained at thinking you're going to be able to solve the problem quicker but if the first time you actually put thought if the first time you put pen and paper together to to put some thoughts together is after the problem occurred guess what you're not going to know what to do now when it comes to judgment as you guys heard last week from The Shield that we talked about of what happens after a person dies in the grave where the Judgment already begins at that PO moment and then after the grave the Torah tells us that actually we're being judged every moment the prophet job in the Book of Job says in chapter 7 verse number 18 job says to a you inspect him in every in every morning and observe him in every moment he tells hem you inspect man every day but not just every day on the whole day every moment of the day every moment of the day you inspect them inspect them from what did he do a mitvah did he do he do a mitvah or he made a sin which one did he do why I have to pay him for mitvah the payment is initially he gets opportunity to do another mitvah for he gets what's what's the payment another a meaning domino effect but ultimately speaking there has to be a reward and Punishment in the end now the yet is going to convince you that no no no you don't need this stuff there's no judgment enough it's too much well here you go Torah tells us in 44 said even a tree is judged by a for not giving fruit even a tree a tree that's supposed to be a fruit tree came out with fruit but all of them are rotten or he's a tree that's supposed to come up Bloom and have beautiful flowers in the spring this year not so much that tree will be judged in heaven now the details of how a tree is judge or not is irrelevant for us why what do we learn from this what do we learn from this say why is telling us that even a tree is going to be judged to teach us that every single thing in creation is supervised everything has a purpose everything has to be part of the system everything has a consequence if you live your life with a thought process that every single action you have have will have a consequence there's a cause and there's an effect you'll live a very very different life but if you simply roam around like a wilderbeast just hoping that no one catches you eventually someone's going to catch you and by then it's too late now in sh Al in says the fear that a person must fear in order to begin his relationship with a is the first start with an understanding that you yourself are going to be punished because you like your body too much meaning you like to please yourself you like to eat too much you like to uh do all types of things and you figure that if my body has a desire I should fulfill it if you're not going to pay attention you can leave leave you with me if you're not with me you can leave this is not school we're here to learn but it's not school you don't have to be here you haven't listened for five minutes and it's distracting to the other people a person will get punished because he figures that there's no judgment for anything and therefore he figures that every single time he has a desire or she has desire therefore she should fulfill it so says you should already start with the understanding that by doing that you're definitely going to get punished what kind of punishment we'll just put it this way he says says every single desire has a special punishment for it if if this is not a desire that's allowed meaning you're allowed to be intimate but only with your wife only with your husband at an appropriate time when she's not n but if you figure no I'm not married I'm just gonna do whatever I feel like it why because I have a physical desire I want a boyfriend I want a girlfriend I want a whatever I want well just look at it this way just imagine that every single time you have a desire and you don't fulfill it you're going to get a City full of gold and diamonds for not fulfilling that desire cuz that's aah you have a desire you overcome yourself huge reward or you fulfill that desire so I'm going to cut off your pinky oh I don't want to do it uh all of a sudden all of a sudden I don't really have that desire that much yeah but it's a really strong desire okay so I'll cut off your thumb too oh that desire just dropped by 90% oh you still have some oh I cut off the The Pointer too just imagine the punishment that I just described to you is not even 1% of 1% of 1% of 1% of what a person gets for making a sin one time and says once you understand the cost of fulfilling those physical desires that are forbidden whether it be non- kosher food or non- kosher intimacy or simply non- kosher Behavior once you understand the cost your desires are simply supposed to just go away why it's not worth it anymore I want to do it but not I'm not going to risk my fingers I'm not going to risk my toes I'm not going to risk my eyes I'm not going to risk my nothing I don't want to risk anything I just want to have fun this is not fun anymore says in his book in this is a chapter specifically dedicated to understanding who owns you he says the following a person at first delves and thinks for himself what am I made out of meaning my body at some point you're supposed to think you touch your piece of meat look at your hands you're different than the table you're different than the lamps you're different than everything okay what am I made of you think of stuff oh this that you realize okay you're unique to Creation to some extent but in reality where did this all come from putrid seed came from nothing came from something that if you saw it on the floor You' be disgusted eventually what's going to happen to it it's going to be lunch for some worm and maggots that's what it's going to be so he thinks about already he like oh so this what am I a living schnitzel if you put all the chemicals that make up your body you could buy them for $13 then he thinks okay what world did I come into you look at the world around you not the uh hip-hop videos that pretend like they're all rich even though it's all rented cars you look at the world around you you see the world around you what is it comprised of everybody has problems every other person has a sick member of their family that has the disease that's incurable every other person is depressed everyone is on some type of drug with its rlin or it's a some type of anti-depressant or it's a uh you know painkillers everybody's on some drug now kids grow up already they oh he's six years old yeah he's add what do you mean he's six For Heaven's Sake what add he's a kid every kid in this generation is attention deficit disorder the fake disease the generation no he can't pay attention he jumps around yes he's a kid that's what he's supposed to do if he doesn't jump around that's what makes him not normal if the kid doesn't jump around that's not normal why he's a kid he's six he's seven he's eight he's nine he's supposed to climb the walls if he doesn't there's something wrong what do you mean but everybody else is sitting yeah because they're already drugged teachers have become lazy they just want people to just be corpses in their classes so every other kid is just going to class high but he has no idea why honey take this it's vitamins after a person realizes the world around them is full of corruption full of disease full of problems he starts realizing because what's the point of every person that's now okay we're all 15 16 17 18 years old what are we going to have what's what what are we going to have and he realized that if you're alive you actually think about it I'm destined to have problems not because hasem hates me but that's just because that's life meaning I am destined already to have problems there's not a single person in the world that's not going to problems everybody's destined to have problems so already now he's like oh wow I'm made out of a schnitzel I'm in a world that's full of disease and Corruption I'm destined to have more and more hardship to the extent where I'm not going to be able to rest very much except uh you know maybe I go on vacation once a year and pretend like I'm uh not suffering and in the end he turns into dust meaning he's even less than what he started so this is life for everybody what's the difference between somebody that observes T and the rest of mankind technically the beginning in the end are the same they come from putrid seed they're all going to turn into dust they all going to have problems they all live in the same world full of problems and disease what's the difference the difference the says is how you live in the middle knowing that you're starting from this point you're going to end at that point you're going to live in this world of problems and so on and so forth how are you going to manage that life knowing all of this information how are you going to manage what are you going to do about it you're just going to be like another one of the uh the mice that goes in the train and follows and works and you know eat eats and sleeps and works and eats and sleeps and works and eats and sleeps once in a while reproduce and that's it that's it that's that's your life or that has to be a bigger purpose at that point a person needs to understand that the only way to have a bigger purpose is by thinking okay there has to be something bigger than this and says he arrives the conclusion that there must be a Creator and and once he realizes the significance the Purity the magnitude the awesomeness of this Creator and he realizes how pure he is how big he is how enormous he is how wise he is he realizes even more how little he or she is and at that point a normal human being should arrive at a conclusion that I need to be scared of this creator why because I'm simply nothing he's everything and I'm here to serve him who am I to disobey someone that's so magnificent someone that's so enormous someone that's so amazing who am I to actually intentionally disobey this creator that gave us a rule book now the tells us that if a person chooses wisely he has an enormous amount of reward both in this world and the next for anyone who prayed you know that in after you have and says to he says he guides the humble in Justice and he teaches the humble his ways what does it mean he judges he guides them in their mishpat in their in their uh justice every single day there's some type of mishpat there's some type of court case but if you humble yourself and you realize that a is above you himself will teach you what way he wants you to go you know okay I just want to do what Hashem wants oh you want to do what I want okay I'll direct you to the right place I'll direct you to the right destination why because all of the ways of hem are kindness and Truth All hem wants is to fulfill his will which is full of kindness and truth if you want to fulfill his will as well he's going to help you if not he won't and as it says he will instruct him in the way that he chooses if a person chooses to do good Hashem will help him in that choice if a person chooses to do bad he will also help him in that now some people are going to say yeah listen I'm good enough I already keep a couple of things I give takaka once in a while I go to beess once or twice a year I read whenever I get time I'm good the Tor in says there's a certain type of person that a loves and a certain type of person that who hates who are these people if a person does what a says obviously he calls him this is my lover this is a person that loves me on the other hand if a person doesn't do his will doesn't automatically make Hashem hate him this just a person that's wicked hasm is not happy with him but he doesn't make him hate him who doesm say I actually hate this person chapter 29 Verse 18 he says if a person blesses themselves in his heart saying peace will be with me though I walk as my own heart sees fit meaning a person says listen I'm okay you do you I'll do me you live your life I'll live my life I'm fine I keep Shabbat my way even know I'm doing certain things that Torah says no hasem understands me Hashem understands that I have to play with a Facebook on on Shabbat hm understands Hashem understands that I like to play basketball with the guys on Shabbat Hashem understands that I like to drive a little bit on Shabbat hm understands that I like to eat at least one bacon egg and cheese sandwich a month Hashem understands that I can't leave my girlfriend Hashem understands that I can't leave my boyfriend CU I love him Hashem understands that this and that peace will be with me I'm gonna be okay don't worry Hashem understands so let's see what Hashem says about that person a person that says peace will be with me Hashem will not be willing to forgive him for then hashem's anger and jealousy will smoke against this person and the entire implication written in his book will come down upon him and Hashem will erase his name from under the heavens Hashem will sent him will set him aside for evil from among all the tribes of Israel like all the imprecations of the Covenant that is written in his book of the Torah meaning if a person is simply Wicked because he doesn't know anything he doesn't know that you're not allowed to eat certain things he doesn't know you're not allowed to touch certain things he doesn't know you're not allowed to look at certain things but he's trying to learn that's one thing but a person simply wastes time he has the truth staring him in the face but he prefers to play with his phone instead he has the truth staring him in the face but he decides ah this guy's crazy he's uh too stringent he's a this he's a that I'm not ready for this well he is risking becoming a person that a hates why it's not about the fact that he sins it's a fact that he doesn't care sinning is expected everybody sins I sin you sin everybody sins there's no thing as a person doesn't sin even aad sins accidental but he sins it's not about sinning that's the problem it's about sinning meaning ah this sin is just GNA have to understand I'm just going to be a sinner hasem is just going to have to understand that I'm not leaving her hasem has to understand that I have to do this this and that even though he said noem has to just find a way for me to go to heaven a person that has that kind of an attitude UD says that person gets the worst CL the worst curse in the entire Tor why it's not about the sin it's about the attitude and that's why is what we're trying to understand here the ramban is trying to tell us that if you simply think for a moment who are you going toay pay judgment in front of at some point if this is a what does that mean we'll finish with a couple of small things and then you guys can ask any questions that you want the ramban writes that you have to think you're going to be in front of the king of glory you're going to be in front of the King of Kings at some point you have to think what are you going to look like when you get to that point all your wisdom that you think you have is not going to be worth very much all your jokes when you get there are not going to be worth very much the G says that the Judgment in heaven is very different than here here usually you have a crime and there's a punishment in sh there's something called there's judgment and there's accounting so say what is judgment and accounting what is that a double punishment almost just a little worse the dean is okay somebody stole so let's say for example somebody steals he loses an arm that's the dean the accounting is that now after hasem punishes him for whatever sin he made whatever sin she made she decided to walk around half naked hasem punishes her for it but after that punishment is paid then they do an accounting what is this accounting this accounting is what could you have done that's good that's a mvah with the time that you've sinned meaning you went around and let's say for example you decide to buy a Hero full of bacon a big one foot hero now it took you I don't know let's say 20 minutes to eat this hero so during every single bite that you took is a sin of itself it's not just one sin for the entire sandwich everybody is a sin so that every sin has to be paid for but now after you finish the sandwich Shem punishes for that sandwich right everybody understands that part the G says no no it's further than that now hasem does the accounting what's the accounting how long did it take you to eat the sandwich took you 20 minutes so that's 20 minutes that you could have actually been doing a mitah by eating a kosher sandwich by going to by putting on by praying by doing something good that's an additional punishment and that's scary why because we realize that the Wrath in heaven is very different than anything we could possibly understand as humans it's not limited like ours even the most vicious person in the world cannot understand the Wrath Of Heaven because he's still human he also cannot understand the love love of heaven cuz he's still human the point being is the more we understand about what how hasem judges us the easier it is to overcome some of these strong desires because we realize that yes I have a strong desire to do something against theem but once I understand the punishment for it once I understand what is it going to cost me it simply becomes not worth it it's like saying listen I really want this sandwich but there's a sign on top of the sandwich you eat the sandwich death penalty uh you know what I'll just eat a cake I don't want to eat the sandwich why I'm not hungry why you were hungry you're hungry until you haven't eat in two days yeah but there's a a you touch the sandwich as a bullet I don't want to I don't want to die I'm not that hungry anymore once a person understands that the judgment is that severe he simply says the Sin is not worth it sin is not worth it that's why the constantly constantly said that you have to understand the Judgment why because that's the only thing that's going to help you overcome the big sins especially the sins of the youth the sins of the youth are specifically generally speaking moral crimes meaning things that have to do with promiscuity and things of that nature the addiction to fulfilling your physical desire is the most addictive addiction that a human body could possibly have it's the strongest desire that a human being could possibly have but you also get the biggest reward for overcoming it if a person preserves themselves the amount of reward that they're going to get is infinity is not enough if they don't the punishment isn't which means that you have to take into consideration is it really worth it to walk around with short shorts and show a bunch of strangers my body is there really worth it to have a boyfriend before I'm married is it really worth it to have a girlfriend before I'm married even though we're not really doing it but we're doing it but we're not really doing it is it really worth it to do this even by myself is it really worth it once you start realizing so the gives us our last suggestion then I'll open up for questions the in chapter 23 says that a person needs to do themselves a service what is this service one of the most important M books that was ever written about 300 or so years ago was written by the it's called the highly recommended did a whole series about this book and writes in chapter 23 that a person needs to do themselves a service do themselves a favor what vividly illustrate the day of judgment meaning learn enough Tor learn enough about punishment where you could vividly imagine what happens if you sin some of the stuff that we're trying to do why if you could illustrate in your mind okay if I touch her they're going to cut my hands off if I look at this they're going to take my eyes out if I uh put this in here then what what they're do to me if you could actually illust vividly illustrate it guess what 95% of the desire runs away which means that to learn this stuff is not really a device it's survival especially when it comes to promiscuity and things of that nature so one should have he says one should paint a sharp mental picture of what he will experience after death when he's presented to the Heavenly court for judgment in view of the celestial Allegiance the defendant will stand in front of the king of kings the ultimate source of sanctity and Purity the almighty is surrounded by ministering Angels who carry out his wishes with absolute perfection we've talked about what some of these angels do in the previous shim and he the defendant will stand exposed to their intense scrutiny painfully aware of the worst of his actions overwhelmed will the defendant be able to raise his head will the defendant be able to DARE even open his mouth when the court asks him have you lost your tongue like meaning why are you talking you talked so much for 7 years you all had had all types of jokes all types of comments when the court asked him where's the honor and Glory that you had prided yourself in during your life what is he going to answer nothing how is he going to deal with this rebuke from Heaven nothing he's going to crawl into the ground and if someone would even for a moment form a true and forceful impression of this idea of what happens after a person dies all of his pride will run and fly away from him and never return again meaning that some of the stuff that some people don't like to hear about is actually one of the primary things that you need to learn about and I myself as well in order not to sin because sometimes the desires are so strong that the only way we could overcome them is by simply understanding that they're not worth it and that's why the page 11a says how do we know that all of the evidence of our life is going to be presented in heaven in our final Judgment Day because the T tells us that anyone that thinks that he could sin in privacy of their home and no one's going to testify against them is mistaken the says the very stones of the walls of his house the wooden beams of his own house are going to be used as the witnesses now they're concealing his crime but later on they're going to cry out and condemn him for his hidden sins the person's own soul that resides within him that's bearing and witnessing all of this wrongdoing will testify against him and when the court issues a verdict the person is is so overwhelmed with sin he has no choice but to attach his signature writing a confession and humbly accepting the sentence whatever sentence it is saying yes this verdict is indeed true and just meaning after a person is shown a movie of their life of every single sin that he thought was secret no one knew that he was was in the bathroom no one knew that he was with her no one knew that she was with him no one knew this no one knew that they show him we knew everything the level of embarrassment that a person will have on that day is going to create such confusion he say okay yeah this is all right where could I just sign just to end this embarrassment just punish me already that's the pun that's the embarrassment that people like to talk about that yes the worst punishment is the is the embarrassment it's not really the worst it's just that it's the beginning so that's what the ramban is trying to teach us is that you need to understand that the Judgment in heaven is not like the Judgment of a court in this world a court in this world or a king in this world is flesh and blood here today gone tomorrow the law can change the sentence can change all types of things can change sentence in heaven doesn't change when a person understands what the sentence is heaven could potentially mean Shalom most of his or her desires simply run away why it's just not worth it now even though this is not none of this is pleasing to hear it's what we need to why because we first as part of chuva first we need to stop sinning and then we start focusing on doing more and more mitv if you just focus on dovah okay you put on and you kept like half of the and you ate kosher once in a while and you didn't go out tonight with the guys but maybe tomorrow what's going to happen yeah you're going to have a bunch of mitv but they're going to be full of Filth of the sins that you're still making that's why chuva first starts with return to Hashem return to Hashem by what by stopping your ways stopping the bad stuff once you stop the bad stuff then not only is easier to fulfill your time with mitv the mitv are complete that means what they're pure they're clean they're not full of Filth and that's the key the key to chuva is the first understand we can't be one of these people that regrets any meets what we've done that's just silly and a very very big sin we can't be one of these people that says no no I'm good I'm good the way I am because that's a very very big dangerous move to make and last but not least we need to constantly realize that at some point every single one of us is going to meet a we have to have something to say at that day that's to our Merit if we don't start doing chuva today we're not going to have it any questions yes um so you said before that if a tree doesn't give fruit it's going to be Jud right yes um I was watching a debate between Yi and his Christian pasture and and Yi was pointing out that it says in the New Testament that Jesus cursed a tree a fig tree for not producing fruit right but but it wasn't the right season so obviously uh Ys mrai was right for or or because I mean if the Christians believe that this guy was God and and he wanted the tree to produce uh what's the question the question is that that obviously this wouldn't apply the punishment wouldn't apply in this specific case because the tree was because it was a different season right right okay so what's the question oh just figured out the answer to the question okay next question yes why is basketball not allow for young kids according to Ala young kids are allowed to play with a ball because they're young they're below the uh uh the age of mitv but adults which Begins for Judaism for boys at 13 and girls at 12 they're only allowed to play with a ball if they're playing with their child otherwise it's considered M otherwise the ball is considered M meaning you're not allowed to touch just like you're not allowed to touch a pen why because it's not on Shabbat it's not honor for shabat for you to bring a secular item into a KES it's not something you're not supposed to play basketball on Shabbat because Shabbat is the day that aadh and you are supposed to celebrate together a day that he created just for you playing basketball is not exactly the ideal way of celebrating something holy it's a mundane thing to do so by bringing the Mand into the holy it's desecrating Shabbat and that therefore the decreed that balls are actually M on Shabbat for adults unless they're playing with their child which is a part of on Shabbat but if it's just playing for their pleasure for a game and so on it becomes a very big problem same thing with talking business talking business six days a week is not a problem on Shabbat it's a problem even though per you're not actually doing business you're just talking about the building that you want to buy and he happens to be the seller or the broker or so on you're not actually doing business that's still a violation why that's bringing a mundan into a holy and in essence you've made Shabbat into just another day but it's a day off of work instead of a holy day so that's in essence all of these Sports and things of that nature you're going to find 5,000 rabbis that are lenient about everything including Shabbat they're going to find a way for you to do whatever you want I'm telling you what Allah is I'm tell you what is is what wants you to do does not want anybody to play basketball in Shabbat he wants you to learn to he wants you to go to bees and pray he wants you to eat enjoy rest a little bit that's what he wants you to do he definitely does not want you to play soccer or basketball or anything else unless again you're you have a kid it's your son or something like that uh you're playing with them and that's part of your enjoyment of Shabbat that's a different story but generally speaking the guys that are playing basketball sometimes with their rabbis they should switch rabbis yes just follow up so that means like also other things like let's say you play with Nerf guns that wouldn't be allowed either right gen again like I said generally generally speaking it's a uh it's not the ideal way to spend Shabbat the ideal way of spending Shabbat put it this way you're supposed to according to our Torah you're supposed to look forward to shabbat the whole week and almost like partially mourn that Shabbat is over you're supposed to prepare for Shabbat the whole week and mourn that it's finished at the end supposed to be sad at abala who's going to be sad that that Shabbat over it's just the day off you play basketball all day you can play basketball the next day you can play basketball every day you can play with the Nerf gun all day you could do all these things you could do every day so what's the difference between Shabbat and the rest of the week it's just the day off of school it's a day off of work that's all it is that's what people have turned it into and that's the problem that people simply don't take into account why it's not that people are naturally evil it's that people don't think and that's why we have an entire generation of so-called modern Orthodox kids modern Orthodox girls and boys and even sometimes really you know cish or whatever types of all types of religious people that don't really care for Shabbat they keep it meaning they don't drive a car they don't uh turn you know watch TV they don't uh you know light cigarettes but if let's say there was uh some like get out of jail free card somebody said listen from now on you could keep shabat if you want but you don't have to all of them will stop keeping it why CU they're not really enjoying Shabbat the only difference for them in Shabbat is that it's just a bigger meal that's it they eat like a horse other than that nothing changes why because the rest of it is it's a mundane day they play basketball they play football they you know and very very little Tora the only T people usually learn is the few words that the Rabbi says after sud and maybe after uh you know uh in the morning 90% of the people are not even listening they can't wait to go home and start eating and it just becomes another day that you eat like a pig and uh you sleep and uh you know pretty much do whatever you want it's a day off it's a vacation it's the same thing goes with people that fast for no reason fasting is supposed to be done you know in order to like make yourself spiritually elevated if you're going to use that fast to become spiritually elevated by learning to all day but if you fasted but you slept the whole day that's not a fast that's just a diet tab is coming up less than two weeks we're all obligated to fast but the point of the fast is to make you spiritually elevated as a result of the learning and the mourning you're going to do over the destruction of the bet mikdash in order to elevate you and get closer to understanding what a really wants but if simply the whole day you're thinking about oh the steak is going to be delicious at 8:00 oh the coffee is going to be amazing at 7:45 oh I can't wait to have that dessert the whole day you're thinking about food and you sleep 90% of the day that's not a fast that's just a diet you just took a diet doesn't say doesn't want diets a fast is supposed to be a day that you get spiritually elevated by using the tools that hasm gave us which is the if a person is not learning T while he's fasting there's no point of the fast yes why do we weigh between meat and milk and not milk and meat explained in a couple of ways there's several different opinions there's several different opinions about how much time you should wait between milk and meat uh meat and milk generally speaking the ones that said to wait some said to wait you know a an hour others said to wait two hours others said to wait 6 hours and some said to wait 24 hours after you eat meat and you eat milk and the reason why is because they're determining how long does the taste of the meat Still Remains with you some say that it lasts this much some say that much and so on and others have other taming other reasons for it but they're saying that in essence it's supposed to be the taste is supposed to be gone CL is supposed to be completely digested so some say it takes 6 hours to fully digest the food some say it's more and after it's completely out of your body and so on and so forth but when it comes to dairy dairy takes much less time to digest and The Taste itself is uh much less uh you know doesn't hold as long if you drink a cup of milk if you simply drink a cup of water right after it it's like as if you never drank the milk on the other hand you ate a nice juicy 16 o steak you could drink as much water as you want that tast is with you for a little while so that's also another thing generally Orthodox Jews keep 6 hours after meat 6 hours after meat and as far as milk you wash your mouth and you could have meat you can do what you want chicken chicken technically is considered parve it's not really meat but the decreed that it is meat because it looks too much alike and people weren't able to tell the difference and by looking at you know seeing somebody eat chicken they thought it was a stick and people started making mistakes so they decreed the chicken has to be treated the same way as meat so you have to also wait 6 hours after chicken as well even though it's not really meat still decided in a rabinal mitvah is no less than a Biblical Mitzvah people think it's different it's actually sometimes the rabinal Mitzvah have a worse punishment than a Biblical Mitzvah so that's also another thing generally after meat 6 hours after after uh after an poultry and after uh Dairy you just wash your mouth and you're you're good but why do we wait I just explained we waited because they again decided that 6 hours is the uh agreed upon but like is it is it written in the Torah you should wait between yes well it says several times in the Torah that you're not allowed to cook a uh a deer in its mother's milk three times it's mentioned in the Torah so say why is it mentioned three times the same exact hasm didn't waste a single letter in the Tor why is he mentioning the same exact thing three times and that's because it has three different sins involved in milk and meat first one is eating it not allowed to eat it together so if you if you if you don't wait it's as if the milk and the meat are in your body at the same time and generally speaking it's not supposed to be especially since if you eat meat the meat is staying here here and and relatively close to where your digestion is and where your taste uh uh buds are more so than milk milk goes straight to the stomach and usually leaves your body relatively quicker so they said that in essence if you don't wait it's as if you've eaten milk and meat together the second reason why it says don't uh this verse is because you're also not allowed to cook it together even let's say for example you're not going to eat it for yourself but you want to work as a chef and non kosher restaurant not allowed why non koser restaurants use milk and meat together on a regular regular basis the reason why you rarely find kosher bread in a supermarket is because they use milk and meat as different types of ingredients in their bread so that's why you're Mo you go to the supermarket 90% of the breads are not Kosher like you would think it's bread what it's it's flour what's the big deal no there's different ingredients that go into the bread that are not Kosher so the second thing is you're not allowed to uh cook it last but not least you're not allowed to benefit out of it what does it mean benefit out of it let's say you want to own a uh non- kosher restaurant and sell non Kosher meat not allowed that's also not allowed not all to benefit so if let's say for example mistakenly you making a nice juicy burger and by accident by accident your brother or your sister threw a piece of cheese on a barbecue now obviously you know you can't eat it what about if I want to give it to my dog I give it to my dog dog is not is not Jewish not allow why if you feed the dog that cheeseburger you're still benefiting how by the fact that now you won't have to spend money on dog food because you fed him this so you benefit financially out of it therefore you're not allowed so there that's why it's mentioned three different times yes um is it allowed to like like if you have like a younger sister like 5 years old say are you allowed to ask them like turn the TV on or something on Shabbat yeah no well first of all you're not allowed to tell anybody to do anything that you're not allowed to do even if they're not Jewish meaning if you have a you have a uh I don't know Mr Wang works in your house okay Mr Wong is not a Jew and uh he doesn't have to keep Shabbat you're not allowed to tell him to do anything that you're forbidden to do on Shabbat you're not to tell him to turn on the light you're not allow to tell him to uh you know do anything that you're forbidden to do even though he's not Jewish why because he's in essence your messenger he's your extended arm if you told him to turn it on and he turn it on it's the same thing as you turned it on now if he turns it on by himself because he wants to use the light that's a different story but if he's turning out specifically for you that's forbidden same thing goes with the kid you're not allow to tell the kid to do it there are leniencies in a time of a trouble where let's say for example there uh there's P or a sick person involved then there's more leniency and they say that if you're going to do it in a strange way then you can use a child for it but meaning on you know on a first basis you're not allow to tell not a kid or a non-jew to do something that you're forbidden to do uh plus more importantly you're not allowed to watch TV on Shabbat regardless uh because like I said about basketball and the other things it's not on Shabbat it's not the right honor for Shabbat to be watching TV so even if somebody says listen I'll just leave the TV on I'll leave the TV on I won't turn it on I'll leave the TV on and I'll put the remote away so I'm just whatever is on I'm going to watch that's also forbidden why it's a violation Shabbat it's not something you're supposed to do on Shabbat technically it's not something you're supposed to do at all ever but even if you say no no I'm going to watch shabat I'm watch RAB Ruben on Shabbat on YouTube I'm just GNA play a whole series you know uh the whole Shabbat that's also forid why it's not on Shabbat to watch TV on Shabbat yes is someone able to take antidepressant if depress repeat I'm sorry I didn't hear can someone take anti-depressants can somebody take anti-press if they're depressed it depends if they are uh if if they are clinically depressed meaning they've tried all of the necessary things that the rabbis have suggested professional rabbis not just somebody that has a hat uh people that understand the the the Mind people understand depression they've tried that they also have gone to they have even used other professional help whether it be psychiatrist that work within the body of Tor not these secular or G like a Jewish psychiatrist also and they determin that this person is at this stage needs the help of anti-depressants or any medicine no problem no problem at all even uh you know people that have for example pain and they need painkillers you know and for example they tried let's say uh perets or vikin or anything like that and those things don't work for them or they numb them in certain ways they don't like and they say listen the only thing that works for me is the CBD no problem you could use it if it's for medicinal reasons no problem if you've tried all the other things and this is the only thing that works it's a mitvah to use it not just you're allowed it's actually a mitvah to do it but if you simply just decided for yourself listen I'm a little depressed because my girlfriend left me let me take a couple of pills to numb the pain I'll take a couple of Xanax just to make sure it goes away for a little while no it's not allowed that's killing yourself so it's it's important to know you know that you need to get some guidance go to somebody that knows a few things get some professional help not just one or the other usually try to have the theab work with the psychiatrist that's at least willing to comply with the rules of the Torah it's not going to tell you listen you're depressed go masturbate there's are people that say that there's plenty of them that do it say no no it relieves your it relieves your anxiety that's what P today that's what they say go do that relieve yourself relieve your tensions somebody like that you have to throw off of a bridge not use him as a doctor so somebody that's going to work with a uh with with the body in the scope of the Torah he recommends for you to use a certain medicine no problem at all but if it's a person that's completely an atheist or a idol worshiper of some kind or somebody just telling you things that are completely ignoring the Tor no then it's not allowed so it's it has to be you have to even choose your doctors wisely somebody asked me today what about uh people that are addicted to stuff can they go to AA meetings now it's well known that AA meetings Alcoholics Anonymous sex anonymous uh all these different types of anonymous programs are uh yes they're catered to help the addicts but they're also catered to recruit uh Christians meaning the Christian missionaries use this as like a uh hunting ground to recruit people to their religion especially if those people are Jews that's why they host these Alcoholics Anonymous in churches so under no condition is any Jew ever allowed to go into a church not for medicinal reasons not for any reason to such an extent that Shalom wrote they asked them a difficult question what if a big Rabbi has a meeting with let's say you know the the Prime Minister of England once a year and the Prime Minister has a big event and he invites him for the sake of peace to come to the event but the event is in a church which they do every year in London says it's 100% forbidden it's like yeah but what about if it's going to create tension between the Jews and theim he says let it create tension between the Jews and green it's to that extent why because this is a place of idolatry so needless to say if he is not allowed to go as a leader need say we're not allowed to go as individuals you have to find a uh a Jewish organization that deals with with addicts there's a few in Florida there's a bunch of them in New York they exist they're just they're not as common but they exist yes yes why can't these heat up like things that have liquid in it during shice no it's incorrect the uh the uh spartic and ashkanazi are relatively similar in this uh soup for example if you want to have soup if the if the majority of the uh of the dish is water uh you could only use it and uh and heat up the food before Shabbat starts and leave it on the Plata leave it on the uh on the um uh on the hot plate now once you've actually lifted it once you've lifted the uh the soup and you and you put it down somewhere else at that point whether your Safari or asazi you can no longer bring it back on the hot plate the only way you're allowed to put on a hot plate you could either take it directly from the hot plate and leave it on the hot plate the whole time or you lift it but you never put it down but that's for both from what I know but as far as if you've taken it off if you've taken the soup off of the hot plate and you put it down also forbidden to uh to put it back on but that's only if the majority of the dish is liquid if the dish has liquid in it like for example there's many dishes like you know different types of stews or different types of dishes that have liquid in them because if they don't they're simply going to burn up but it's not the majority it's a small part of it that's not a problem you can lift it put it back on it's it's not a problem CU that's not the majority of it the majority of it is chicken and potatoes and all types of things but if the majority of it which like soup is liquid then that's a different situation I have aat book in my in my car for anybody that wants I give you a free book yes what happens to n people after they die non-jewish people have either the writes that if the um if it's a righteous non-jew and they uh they they fulfill the seven noahide laws and all of the uh ethical laws of the Torah because hasem said so they have their own Heaven they have their own Heaven they have their owna it's not in the same level as the Jews Heaven because they didn't fulfill as many me vot and didn't fulfill as much of an obligation similar to how the janitor is not going to get the same paycheck as the CEO but they still get a retirement plan okay if on the other hand they don't whether it's because they stay Christians or Catholics or other types of Heretics or atheists then they go to Gom for eternity and it's a not a good place so they also have ganed they also have Gom but believe it or not to my knowledge the Gom for Jews is also worse for Jews meaning the heaven is better for Jews but the Gom is also worse meaning it's weight it's not that the uh heaven is is better for Jews and than the than the non-jews but the gome is the same no it's the gome is also worse but needless to say it's a it's terrible regardless to you know as far as our our uh understanding yes ever end up on the same level like a Jew that was totally didn't follow didn't accept the religion yes both they could if if a Jew denied the Torah uh and violated the Torah then his soul in essence will also will be destroyed just like the nju that's what it means when it says in the Tora he has no share of the world to come that means that he goes to a extended period of suffering that could be millions of years until the soul that's the part of uh that's the separate that AEM created separate from him is officially destroyed just like the non-jew is destroyed so yeah technically yes I just want to ask your opinion so I just think about that I don't even know aluni do you know that what is it aluni in the history back in then and they and they find some stuff in isra uhhuh do you know that you mean the what the uh the uh like the Scrolls the Dead Sea Scrolls no it's like a n u n a i k i oh it's a it's a civilization that uh they they believe like there some Civ alien civilization find something like that oh they find some stuff because I'm from turkey and they find some stuff new and I just want to ask you of you want you think about it uh the uh a lot of people uh you know the especially in recent years um like the last 70 years or so like to do a lot of Investigation about aliens because they either some people saw they think they saw strange beings and so on now the Torah does not say that there's no other creatures in other places it doesn't say that like it doesn't say that we are the only living beings meaning that it is possible that there are living beings in other planets it's possible the to doesn't discuss it and the reason why is because they're never going to come here they're never going to affect our life that's why the Tora doesn't discuss it the Tora generally discusses only the things that will affect your life so could there be other beings and other places possible is it going to affect our life in any way absolutely not because if it would it would it would be in the Torah now but that doesn't actually mean that the things that people find in caves in pyramids and so on are actually aliens it doesn't mean that why because the Torah does discuss that in this world there are many many strange beings that exist and have existed throughout history that thear talks extensively about the Z talks extensively about that if we saw them today to us they would be aliens they have the image of aliens for example there's really really small people that if you look at them this this must be an alien no it's just this really really small person that it's not a it's not like uh somebody that's short or deformed no no it's like a really really small civilization and it's some really really big people like we read in the parim uh there's also PE there's also a creature that is connected it's a Beast that is connected to the ground to its a uh to its umbilical cord and anything that comes next to it it kills it's a vicious vicious beast and you could only kill it in one way there is also uh you know things like werewolves they actually have existed Benyamin one of the tribes was a werewolf actually like one of the one of yakov's sons would turn into a wolf so there are all types of really really interesting beings and creatures in the world now and have existed in the past that if we saw them we would deem them as aliens from a foreign Planet but it's not from a foreign Planet it's from here it's just that they're not as common they're not as found some of them don't exist anymore there is an animal called a Tash this animal was created solely for the reason of the mishkan which was the bet mikdash that we had in the desert it's a beautiful animal that is similar as far as body features like a deer a really really big deer but as the skin of a snake extremely colorful and so beautiful that it literally if the skin would be Priceless now this being actually existed in the world and that's how they made the uh the uh the mishkan the whole thing that covered the mishan was his skin now we don't have it anymore if it existed in the world we would think this thing definitely came from a different planet definitely came of because it doesn't look like anything else we've ever seen but it has existed same thing with other animals and other creatures schl for example wanted to show his people that he's aware of the other worlds so he actually had one of the uh the king of the Demons uh his name was ashada he actually had them bring several of these creatures to the kingdom and he brought him a person with several heads a small person all types of creatures that if we saw them they look like aliens to us they look like something that we've seen in uh you know in movies and things of that nature but they're not they just exist in the world but in different parts there's also a physical geden and Gom and a spiritual meaning that there is a place in the world that has all the horrible things that I describ to you guys in shim it actually exists in the world there's also a spiritual one but there's actually one that's a physical one with fire and people screaming and so on and so forth it actually exists in the world some some old recording some say it's fake I don't believe it's fake because it matches all the descriptions there was a team of uh Drillers that were Drilling in the Arctic years ago I think it was maybe 25 30 years ago and uh they drilled really really deep into the ground until they started hearing some strange sounds so they put down a recorder down a hole that was I think a few miles deep and they recorded the recording and the recording you can find actually online and if you hear it you'll immediately become scared and the reason why is because it sounds like everything I describe screaming yelling torture the worst of the worst you hear this you're not going to you're not going to sleep for for a couple nights so now some people say no it's fake whether it's fake or not is irrelevant it actually does exist there is a physical place in the world that is g that's designated to punish the souls that go against hem there's also a place G that exist in the world physically we have it in we're actually in a physical GED in heaven but there's also a spiritual one which is above the world so the point is that there's a lot of stuff in the world that to us if we saw it today if one of these beings walked in right now we'd Say No this must be where's the spaceship where is it no it actually exists just so we're not familiar with it right now they're still discovering new species on a regular basis you know so which means that the out of the land which is about 28% of the globe we haven't even explored half of it we actually haven't even explored a third of it we don't know much about the land in the world most of the land in the world we don't know anything about needless to say the ocean which is 78% of the world or 72% of the world the ocean we literally you ask scientists how much do we know about the ocean they'll tell you nothing it's like yeah but you know about 40,000 different typ of fish like yeah those 40,000 types of fish are literally nothing in comparison to what's in there so the the amount of knowledge that we have is vast in comparison to zero it's a lot it's a lot of books you could fill up entire auditoriums with the books of knowledge that we have about the world but in comparison to what's available and the amount of species that are out there any amount of information that's out there it's uh it's insignificant but you know they say they come to world for the gold in Israel and they say if you took a gold in a day in a you know the gold and you can be more healthy it fix your DNA and you can go to spiritual world it's an it's an interesting Theory because honest my parent do those they take a gold I don't take it but I don't know what's the point of it it's an interesting Theory uh they usually use different types of uh ancient writing whether it be hieroglyphics all types of ancient uh writing that they try to translate based on some type of uh Keystone that they believe they understand and many many times they realize years later they completely misunderstand the message they think that it said you know King Jaa went to uh you know and conquered uh the next Kingdom and later on they said no King Jaa went to the bathroom they realized they made a completely big mistake it's just it's a they thought it was a commandment ended up being a newspaper so a lot of the stuff that they translate is uh generally theoretical uh but more importantly you should know that all of the stuff that's of any value of any good in the world exists in the tah so for example any information you want to find out about gold you'll see in thear it says that the world has seven different types of gold and each type of gold has a different not just a different chemical composition as far as yes it's gold but it has different abilities like for example there's a certain type of gold that actually is good for health there's certain type of gold that replicates itself that's actually how SCH built a mdash full of gold where did he get this gold he actually had Cities of Gold because he had a certain he knew where to find a certain type of gold that replicated itself like literally gave birth to other gold so you put let's say a bar of gold in a drawer the next morning you have two the next morning you have four the next morning you have eight next morning you have 16 and so on and so forth gold that replicates itself today's gold the only thing we have today is gold that doesn't do anything doesn't do anything other than stay in the Federal Reserve for absolutely no reason you know so the point is that there are a lot of things that have existed and were in a possession of throughout history that you could actually find most of the stuff actually not most almost everything that that exist world if it has value you'll find it in the Torah uh for example people love uh you know superheroes you know they made movies out of it comic books and so on and so forth all of the stories virtually of all the superheroes you'll find them in the tah Incredible Hulk fast to flash guy uh you know all the uh Wolverine all of these people actually existed in the Torah the uh the tribe the 12 tribes each one of them had superpowers you look at the mid you look at there's a section called the uh the third book says the War of the tribes and you'll see how the the 12 sons of yov went to war and each one of them had superpowers now these books were in thousands of years ago it's not like uh two weeks ago so it couldn't have been that this came second this was written before the comic books and you see literally the description of what people see on a movie screen is written in the tah 2,000 years ago so a lot of things that we put a lot of value to actually exist in the T and many of the people that that brought them to light actually were Jews like for example the theory of relativity what Einstein became famous for he didn't invent anything the rambam already wrote it 900 years ago rambam wrote The Theory of Relativity 900 years ago it's not like some Innovation that that Einstein came up with it's just that unfortunately not many people learned a rambam and many many many things uh that you'll see from the Torah are extraordinary I have you're you're I assume you like science yeah I like it any so I'm going to bring you a book you going to come to the lecture tomorrow tomorrow I'm working tomorrow I I I think I will come to one in Wednesday or Thursday so Wednesday is tomorrow Wednesday is tomorrow oh next week Wednesday okay so next time you come I'm going to give you a book it's called Uh science comes of age and it's a book by Rabbi zamir Cohen that uh shows all types of amazing uh scientific information that we believe uh like modern people believe that it was discovered by scientists but actually he shows you where you could find it in the Torah from two 3,000 years ago I actually made a whole series of uh short movies short films about it uh it's called Torah science and ancient wisdom if you go to my page you'll see Torah signs in ancient wisdom it's five different short films about 15 minutes each and it shows different scientific facts and where it's actually written in the Torah with the illustrations and so on uh really really interesting stuff and you'll literally see one of the main things that helped me become really religious and believe in hasem 100% is that I realized that all of the wisdom that we put all any value to in this world all of these uh smart people and so on and so forth all they're doing is replicating what our sages already knew 3,000 years ago so when you see that we already possessed all of this information and sometimes many times much more advanced than the scientists you realize wait a minute why should I go to the secondary why don't I just stick with the source so for example you look at the sky and you could probably with your naked eye see I don't know somewhere maybe 1,500 Stars you count in the sky if you have really not in Florida it's a lot of pollution but if you go to Upstate New York or different places where there's less pollution you'll see a lot of stars but maximum maybe 1,500 Stars if you have binoculars you could count up to 6,000 Stars at the time of Galileo galile they put together the telescope and they thought that beforeand there was 6,000 stars then after they had the telescope they figured that there is much more you know probably uh you know several thousand more then they realized they developed it more they realized they could be hundreds of thousand and a million now you fast forward to 1994 and uh NASA connected a superc computer to a telescope and uh they did an estimate of amount of stars that are in the universe of 10 to the 21st power meaning 10 with 21 zeros after it number of stars are in the universe they're estimating they Advanced the computer a little more the university in Australia in 2004 arrived at a more precise conclusion of 10 to the 19th power 10 to the 19th power that was in 2004 now our T we have a written t and a oral T the oral tah in tractate page 32b says a told us exactly how many stars not an estimate but exactly the number of stars in the universe that he created just for us and the exact numers 1 0 640 uh 64 340 and then 12 Z after it meaning 10 to the 18th Power Plus 64 340 and then 12 zos after it meaning that science took a couple thousand years to arrive at a number that's extremely close to a number that we have that's a precise number they're 10 to the 19th power we 10 to the 18th with a little bit more meaning that they're estimating we have an exact we have an exact number and we didn't have a telescope we didn't have a telescope meaning at the time thear was written there was no telescope telescope was only invented 400 years ago thear was written almost, 1600 years ago so we had this information well before telescopes existed meaning that the only way we could have such a number would being that we got it from the one who put it there so when you see this type of information exist in our Torah you realize that it's a uh it's has to be divine a Divine hand as as has written it that makes fulfilling all of the MIT much much easier there's a very good movie by RAB M called Torah and science type in on YouTube rabi ysf mrai or just type in on YouTube Torah and Science and um or you could just ask uh mik to send you the link and you'll see this movie is like four hours and it's full of interesting information like I'm telling you so there's different things generally speaking it's a with with the uh solids like gold and all types of metals I don't recommend swallowing any of that because some of them can actually have poison that's not good for us but uh you know it's um everything is worth checking into as far as does it have a source in a yes do you make do you makeas on food that's not Kosher you make braas on food that's not Kosher are you do you like meaning if you eat pig do you make a br on a no no yes no no it's like someone asked do you make a braa on a uh on a stolen food let's say he had a sandwich you took it and ran away with it do you still have to do on it no it's not yours not all to make a on it it's aah it's a mitvah that you're doing in the way of sin so not allowed to do it why have I heard some Jews say that Christianity is idolatry for a group but it's not idolatry for a boy you only heard that from a guy named Ephraim Goldberg which is a stop learning from Kim from other people so they probably listen to also Ephraim it's idolatry according to the r you know for everybody it's not idolatry just for them there's no such thing as idolatry just for them and not idolatry for us if it's idolatry it's idolatry why so you telling me the statue is a statue for him but it's not a statue for me it's the dumbest thing anybody could ever I I'm really surprised people actually take stuff like that seriously it's like saying this is a chair for you but for me it's not a chair it's a work of art who you selling this to I have a brook Brooklyn Bridge for sale also it's an idolatry it's idolatry for everybody it's no such thing as idolatry for us and idolatry for them idolatry for us could be much more extensive we have more things that can be idolatry but uh Christianity is 100% idolatry yes how come some people can see like spiritual things and other people like you know something like okay it depends on the level of the it depends on the sensitivity of the uh different people are given different tools to connect to a if they're seeing spiritual things in a positive way they're good things it could be that their n is uh higher level or tune differently than other people's n if they're seeing it as a result of uh things that are not good wickedness Witchcraft and things of that nature then obviously they're bringing it on themselves uh but uh the spiritual things exist whether whether we see them or not uh it's just that certain people's are more tuned to it than others I know a few people that see things on a regular basis and I know other people that you could put 10 pairs of glasses on them and they won't see anything including the what's in front of them you know so it just depends of how the the N is tuned uh same thing as far as a you know person could learn tah now and have a certain level of understanding of it fast forward 3 four five years go back to the same exact thing we learned today and he'll because he did certain things during those several years the next time he learned that same page it'll be like a world of difference why because his is tuned differently I could tell you for myself for example not that I'm anything special just give you some perspective on things the first time I ever heard about gay I just thought of it as a scary movie it didn't make me cry it didn't make me necessarily lose any sleep it simply you know it wasn't cool it wasn't great but I forgot about a moment ter moments after I I I learned about it the next time it affected me a little bit more when I did the sh about Gom about a year ago or so studying for it was one of the most difficult things that I encountered in my entire life and I can tell you that I've encountered quite a few difficult things pretty much just imagine somebody reading a book and crying hysterically the whole time that's what it was for a few days why it's the same information I've learned it before but the tuned in differently you have a different level of understanding where is exposing your to different things there's a different opening that wasn't open last time so now you have a different understanding of the same thing you know death here and death here is the same definition but your understanding of what death here versus death here is two different things how how how you actually are how your mind translates it into actual something a visual perspective so the the next time that I learned about it I took it very very differently so makes it a lot more difficult to learn about but quite frankly I see that since we had that sh there's even more of a need to learn about it because it probably helped more people do Chua than almost every other lecture that we have simply because people never understood that there is a punishment in the world people simply think that you either get rewarded or nothing like there's no downside uh it's a completely ridiculous concept but it's only as a result of ignorance so hence the reason of why we mention it much more often now than we did when we first started our shim you know five six years ago so you know your will be tuned differently the more Tora you learn the more the the uh the different the more different your will will react to certain things uh when they for example ask raav keski certain questions he gives them an answer and sometimes people don't understand the answer it's like why he's like well it's written in the tah goes what do you mean how I asked you a question about my P is it written in the T this this my specific situation and he shows him auk and many times they have no idea how he connected this to this but in his mind in his perspective this is not only is it right this is this is exactly it and it ends up being exactly it it's just that they're not tuned in to understand what he sees uh so that's the thing it's a uh you know when it comes to different types of beings and spirits and things of that nature certain people can see it on a regular basis other people can't see it and uh the ones that don't see it I promise you they're better for it they're better for it anything else yes what are things that could soften a person's judgment in shab the biggest thing that a person can do to soften their judgment is to fulfill the mitv of the T the more he fulfills the mitv of the T and applies the of the T to shape his character and improve it the uh the better his judgment is going to be in heaven uh if a person fulfills the Torah he's going to help himself a great deal even more so is to help other people become religious whether it's by giving them CDs spreading lectures you know giving money collecting money from people encouraging them to donate let's say for example if you don't have any money but you know somebody that does and you tell them listen why don't you give $0000 to this why and you give them a little five minute uh you know or 5C scoop oh it's a good cause it's this this and that if you encourage them to give money it's even more so than if you gave money yourself So for anybody that has a uh you know people that are middle or or upper class friends or family this should be your uh number one Mission even more so than you giving simply because you could get people to give a lot more than you can give yourself Anyway by doing by doing this by uh helping other people for the sake of publicizing T and publicizing chuva you're uh you're helping yourself a great deal mainly because not only you encourage encouraging other people to do mitv but there's going to be results from that money that's invested into helping people do Chua and every single time a person who does Chu does a mitvah it goes into your account so now every Shabbat from now on you know you keep one Shabbat he keeps one Shabbat so now you've kept two shabbats now he has a wife she keeps Shabbat now you have three shabbats every Shabbat is now instead of one it's three now they're going to have let's say three four five kids so now every Shabbat is now eight shabbats for you so now you have literally every week you're keeping eight shabbats now if you make two people religious five people religious 10 people religious the amount of reward you're going to get is enormous and it says in the Tor it says in that is not going to send the uh if somebody's aim somebody helps people become religious he has special protection why he doesn't want the rabbi to being Gom and the students to being ganeden because then the students are not going to enjoy their ganeden they're going to enjoy their heaven so what happens so he gives special protection to that Rabbi that helped them go into heaven meaning doesn't necessarily mean literally mean a title of a rabbi meaning the person that helped him do Chua you are the one that collected that 500 or that 5,000 or that $500,000 you collected and that money was used to help people become religious that will give you special protection in heaven against certain T and different a and so on and so forth that you potentially will fall into why because hasm does not want you to uh to be punished when you've helped so many people uh you know get reward because punishing you would in essence be also punishing them so he's going to give you special protection as a result of it so that's one of the that is the biggest thing that a person can do in order to soften their judgment uh help people become religious but of course that always means like I said in last night's lecture in New York that assumes you're you're helping people become religious is assuming that you yourself are living a religious life you know whether as a Jew or as a non-jew you're do you're fulfilling Your Role if you're a Jew you're a righteous Jew if you're a non-jew you're a righteous non-jew if you're a Jew non-jew it's in a process of conversion then you're in essence living a Jewish life per se until you complete your conversion but point being is that if a person will uh will do those couple of things they'll help themselves a great deal because they uh you know there's no person in world that could wipe all of their sins by themselves overnight it takes time and quite frankly most of us are not going to remember most of our sins unless we do specific things like for example if you want to remember some of the sins that you forgot about this is G that you should study at night all the way into the morning without sleeping study all the way at night all the way into the morning and start praying When you pray sh usually AEM is going to give you some type of an idea of something that you forgot about that you sinned so it works it works you can do it it works uh I mean it's very hard some to study all night meaning it's like a you know a special thing that a person can do in order to get something beyond the norm the G is to learn all night the G is to learn Torah all night all the way to the morning into prayer that's the G that's the that's what you're supposed to do you learn all night serious to not like uh you know you're watching uh debate between a Christian and a Jew you know like serious serious Torah learning you learn you learn you learn serious stuff the whole night by the time you get to the morning and you pray hasem will give you one uh one thing that perhaps you forgot about but this is generally not really meant for the the general public or the average person there's plenty of sins that we've all made that we know about we don't need to remember the ones we forgot about let's first deal with the ones we know about let's first deal in fix the ones that we know about then we'll deal with the ones that we forgot about you know so it's a it's it's it's a wonderful for people that are at that level but with the exception of maybe a handful of people that I know watch my shim I don't think anybody that I know is in that level so not it's including myself there's plenty of things I need to fix that I know of I don't need to be reminded of anything yes what's the case for let's say a n that for someh like somehow get some people to do true even to even get to judis and uh you know get to to I think it's for that person who is not a Jew it's a great thing if somebody is not Jewish that helps other people become religious he gets an enormous enormous reward uh it's first of all it's part of their mission as a non-jew in the world is to help Jews become religious uh but they get an enormous reward I mean it's a it's it's uh the the amount of reward that hasem says that he gives uh for helping a person do chuva is 310 different worlds now I can't give you a visual perspective of what these beautiful worlds look like but the point is is that the the the reward for getting a Jew to do chuva a Jewish woman or a Jewish man to do chuva is enormous whether that person is a Jew or a non-jew that helped them uh it's an enormous enormous reward uh they may even have uh you know such a merit that they could uh you know have the the right to convert during their lifetime and become a Jew or uh or other things um I know that from all of all of the converts that we've dealt with uh throughout the last several years um I mean there's probably I don't know uh quite a few quite a few people that we've dealt with and tried to help convert but out of the the cases that completed completed cases meaning people that started the the the the journey and completed it the only ones that have completed it were people that cared about am is enough that they contributed to kiru in some way or another some with money some with skill some with time something they cared about helping Jews Dua everyone else that didn't make it it's not that uh we we decide who and what it's just simply many of the ones that uh didn't care they just cared about thems uh and they always had an excuse not to uh to only care about themselves um from my experience they never succeeded in in converting at least not yet every single person that actually that I've helped which is almost 20 people have completed their uh their conversion maybe more have completed their conversion um every single one of them was involved in one way or another with kiru with helping Jews do chuva while all of the other ones that haven't um you know some of them are still in the process most of them are still in the process but some of them fell off completely like just disappeared the ground swallowed them somehow or they decide otherwise um it's usually you know they didn't have it they didn't have it now some people do help Jews become Dua but uh still AEM didn't allow them to convert for one reason or another that doesn't make them bad doesn't mean that doesn't want their mitvah it's not good enough just that hm doesn't want this yet or at all or whatever it is but I'm just telling you from the success aspect of it there's a common element with all of the people that I've dealt with personally that have actually converted every single one of them that has converted has helped with K on a regular basis not like a onetime thing I know for example I'll tell you one example and then we'll finish for the night uh because we have another sh tomorrow with with questions one guy one guy is one of my students he tried converting for uh I think it was maybe 14 years 12 14 years that's a really long time I mean you could pretty much uh you should be able to con you have B mitvah already years no matter what he did it failed something always happened marriage broke up marriage started marriage something money this B always something always happened to just mess it up 14 years now one day you know we get in touch and so on and I tried to help in a certain way and one day he just gets the uh the urge out of nowhere to donate a large amount of money much more than the than typical specifically to help somebody do Chua now I didn't know about this I simply just one day I see an envelope somebody sent me a check and said well okay B fantastic this is a Lifeline for us for this month now I didn't think much of it aside from the fact that this helped us but for whatever reason or another in sh that was the ticket why literally within less than a year conversion was completed 14 years everything and anything failed always a reason something that moment you calculate I think it was less than a year 11 months conversion was completed now there was no strings pulled there was no like oh we we greased this guy so there no nothing nothing changed just something happened in sh said oh okay fine check so everybody has to do their own their own sacrifice in order to uh to get in essence the uh the the ticket in to that hasm is going to say I want you as part of my nation and the best the best uh the best ticket is to show that you actually care about his nation and unfortunately many times I see people that convert through other people not through me but they convert to other people and they really are anti-semitic like I find this becoming very very common where people convert but they actually don't like Jews like they come in to the Jewish people thinking they're better than the Jewish people talk bad about them say all types of things so those people unfortunately what the says are skin disease to the nation they're the and unfortunately there's quite a few of them uh there's plenty more that are good plenty more good converts but uh the point is that you see the the the common denominator at least from my experience and I'm certain it's the same from other rabis because you just you just I dealt with so many of them already and you see a common element among people it's people that care about isem wants to become part of am people that don't care about am why should I let you convert like what people that have a bunch of them why you so we'll continue tomorrow with more questions with more answers e e [Music] oh [Music] [Applause] [Music] oh [Music]