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The number one thing couples really want is to feel like they don't have to edit themselves, to feel like they could be accepted [music] for who they are, to feel like they could be comfortable in their own skin. Couples say they want better communication. >> [music] >> They say that they want mutual respect. They say that they want tools. They say that they need ideas and homework for self-help books to read on, but that's not what they want. What they actually [music] want is to feel comfortable with their best selves. And if you want to feel comfortable with your best self, you want to feel comfortable in your relationship, spend less time trying to figure out why you're uncomfortable, >> [music] >> and more time catching yourself when you are most comfortable. Because when you catch yourself being most comfortable, then you can figure out why, and you can see what you're doing right. You can repeat that pattern and create healthy cycles.